So, for some reason my ds is always the person to tell me when someone dies.
When my dm died my df rang my ds and db, then got my ds to tell me.
Then over the last couple of years we've had three, what I'd class as major, family deaths. Again my df told my ds and db, then tasked my ds to tell me.
DF is a while other thread in this instance.
However every single time I've been informed of someone's death she tells me via text message.
Yes, I found out my mum had died by text message.
My ds lives in the same town as me (as does df) but cannot pick up the phone to call me and tell me these things, not come and tell me face to face.
She has no problem telling people things directly. She wouldn't be all teary and holding herself together. She is the bluntest person I know (told me when I was trying on a wedding dress it made me look "dreadfully fat. You look like a heifer" 
When I bring up the subject about the form of communication she tells me not to be so sensitive blah blah blah.
The most recent one she text me and then my db (bless him) phoned me immediately - despite it being the middle of the night in Sri Lanka where he was at the time.
AIBU? Should I just accept the fact that communication has changed as such that a text message is an acceptable form of delivering life changing news?