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RUNNING AWAY WHEN PREGNANT

36 replies

Justifythis · 18/08/2018 13:30

I'm pregnant and am leaving my abusive partner to raise the baby alone without him knowing and trying to convince me to have an abortion.

Am I wrong?

OP posts:
PumpkinPie2016 · 18/08/2018 14:54

You are not wrong - you are doing a brave thing for you and for your child.

It's good to read that you have family to stay with - does your partner know your family? Will you be safe there or do you think he may come causing trouble? If so, perhaps contact women's aid for advice.

Does he know you are pregnant? If not, don't tell him and don't put him on the birth certificate.

Good luck Flowers

FaultySpice · 18/08/2018 14:56

Do it OP. Far better to get to out now when you are pregnant than when you have a baby/child in tow. Good luck, stay strong 💐

Starlight345 · 18/08/2018 14:57

Absolutely not .

Good luck op

Cindie943811A · 18/08/2018 14:57

OP, just an idea. If you do not think it will increase the danger from your partner, when he begs you to return tell him you’ve met someone else. When he later finds out you are pregnant fudge the due date and he will presume your baby is not his.
If he thinks DC is his you will never be free of him.
If he does suspect change your surname before the birth and registration to make tracing more difficult.
Good luck

AsYouAre · 18/08/2018 14:58

I absolutely commend your bravery and commitment to doing what's best for your unborn baby. It is so so difficult to get out of abusive relationships, some women never get to the point you are at

Best of luck with your lovely baby, you are absolutely doing the right thing Flowers

viques · 18/08/2018 15:04

You are not running away.

You are running towards a new life, where you are not afraid, anxious, beaten or abused , where your child does not have to see or hear abusive language or behaviour, where you can bring your child up to respect other people, to be fair and to be kind .

Good luck.

Otterseatpuffinsdontthey · 18/08/2018 15:05

@AnoukSpirit
Very sad reading your post. Hope everything goes well for you & your baby.
Stay safe Flowers

paintedwingsandgiantrings · 18/08/2018 15:05

Just go and don't look back. Text him to tell him you've left AFTER you've left, don't give him a chance to manipulate you.

Tell him you're going to have an abortion.

How far is your parents from his? Are you likely to bump into him?

hammeringinmyhead · 18/08/2018 15:23

Well done and the best of luck to both of you. Flowers

MrsMozart · 18/08/2018 15:33

You're doing the right thing. Good wishes to you lass.

NatashaRomanov · 18/08/2018 16:08

You are doing the right thing.
Good luck, and stay strong.

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