5year old (possible SEN) rudeness

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Are there any apps/books/tv programmes that can help an almost 6 year old with appropriate behaviour? Manners/politeness

Please don't just say parenting... obviously I'm trying that. His language is great but not so much the context and when it's used... says words he doesn't know the meaning of but parrots phrases he's heard elsewhere

It can sound really rude but trying to explain to him why you can't say things that way... I'm confusing him more

Also things like the difference between lying and joking is causing a lot of confusion atm

I think a lot of the meltdowns we have (I would liken to a 2 year old tantrum that lasts an hour or so) are because of confusion over the way language is used... he gets told off for being very rude but I'm not sure he genuinely understands he is being rude

Have you sought professional input? You say possible SEN but there is plenty of help out there

Have you tried role play? I saw a brilliant tv programme a while back where a mother did role play with her autistic child ( older than your dc) all the tine and he very gradually learned how to interact appropriately.

For example, perhaps playing shops, schools, going to the doctors?

You can model acceptable behaviour and speech within the context of various scenarios and suggest other responses for his inappropriate speech. It will take ages but could produce long lasting results.

Have a look for some Social Stories - try Twinkl website.

@Aintnothingbutaheartache I have a feeling we won't get a diagnosis... if I had a camera on me all day long I might but he's very clever, great language etc and it's only me seeing that he doesn't really "get it" and gets frustrated whereas I think others will see naughty and rude as he sort of blends in. It's hard to describe. School report is lovely so they're not seeing anything but it's at home and spent a week on holiday with close family friend who observed it and wondered too

I will look at social stories thanks

Role play I'm not sure... I don't really think I'm explaining it well, there's little nuances in life and language that change things from being fine to very rude... it's that getting mixed up. Haven't seen it in other children I've been with this week (naughty I've seen)