To pull DP up on his forgetfulness

[lastqueenofscotland]

DP is a lovely man to preface this moan with...
However he is painfully “forgetful” but only with certain things
So he knows exactly who his football team are playing this season in order and which games he’s going to and when. Remembers gigs he booked for months in advance and travel arrangements etc.
If he’s not that interested, game over.
We are off to a friends birthday thing this evening and in the last two days I’ve been asked four times about how we are getting there/will he have time to do XYZ in between.
I’ll tell him I’ve sorted something and he’ll ask me a day later if it’s been sorted. So on and so forth.
I’d not mind if it was a one off but it seems like it’s most things.
Aibu to actually find this really fecking irritating.

Can you not programme into his calendar?

Why should she? She's not his PA and he's not a child. That's just another way to load all of the responsibilities onto the OP.

Seeingadistance This is how my dad is too. Now my mum isn't around anymore he is finding it hard to find someone else to willingly fill in all the gaps.

Amazing how these men function at work! I somehow imagine they remember things then.

I’m not fucking sorting his calendar.
He’s 29 years old.
If he can remember Newcastle Uniteds season by wrote and all his work meetings he can remember to get the 6:30 train!

I put all of our commitments in our shared calendar. If he doesn't add his things then we may well end up double booked but I "win" cause my stuff is in the calendar.

To any other questions I think he should know the answer to or could easily find out himself ("what time does xxx shop close" "what time is ds swimming lesson" etc) I say i don't know and wander off. It is immensely satisfying.

Don't enable him to be helpless. Leave him to his own devices. No way I'd be a mans diary or calendar or personal reminder service. Fuck that.

"Shall I get some apple out of the freezer so we can make apple crumble?"

No, we've already got banana muffins and jam tarts to finish, don't want too many puds on the go, get it out when we've eaten them, probably Tuesday?

"Ok"

Five minutes later he walks back from the freezer with the apple.

Just refuse to take on his mental load.
Say either “ I don’t know “ or “ what did it say on the calendar? “
I bet he manages to hold down a job !