‘duties’

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Oaksheep · 18/08/2018 03:44

Please may I ask how general ‘living’ responsibilities are divided up in your household? Eg, both working ft, 1dd. 65:35 ratio income. One does all financial, shopping, cooking, cleaning, washing, childcare arrangements - other does basic house maintenance, essentials (eg: burst pipe) and hobbies. Thoughts appreciated, thank you

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echt · 18/08/2018 03:50

Now I do everything.

When DH was alive he did money, holidays, most DIY, veggie patch, ironed his own shirt, all the cooking, the big weekend food shop, walking the dog.

I did all washing and ironing bar the shirts, cleaning, hoovering, flower gardening. As a teacher I had far more work brought home. My job was to eat all his lovely food and agree to all holiday arrangements.

I miss him. We were a great team.

Labradoodliedoodoo · 18/08/2018 03:54

It doesn’t matter how it’s shared as long as you get the same down time for relaxing and hobbies

fuckthisforfun · 18/08/2018 04:13

No children, both work full time shifts earning equal wages. I do the majority of everything house related. It's a massive bone of contention and the main cause of any arguments in our house.

DH goes to the gym every day and/or night and is out for hours.

DH does the food shopping and puts the bins out but that's it. All cooking, cleaning, washing etc is done by me or not at all if I go on strike!

I genuinely think he doesn't see mess/washing/things needing cleaned either that or he's just a lazy bastard.

BlueJava · 18/08/2018 04:22

Him: earns 30% of income. Does bins, admin, remembers the kids stuff more than me, sorts any car problems, garden, 70% of cooking, often does laundry. Doesn't work away from home much, works ft but has a commute. He does all my tax returns/accounting stuff.Mostly does shopping.

Me: earns 70% of income. Arranges and pays for holidays, home decor, some cooking (teenagers do some too), tidying, some laundry (boys help with this). Shopping at supermarket if I have time. I work away a lot sometimes for weeks at a time in Asia or the US

Both - consult on all major decisions/spending, agree investments, mortgage. We have a cleaner and I often dump laundry/ironing at the laundry/cleaners.

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