To think sometimes family's are TOO involved.

[Jessiejuju]

OK so to start off I love my family. They are always there for me when I need them and they have helped me loads in the past but sometimes it feels like they are totally overbearing. I have quite a big family and we are all quite close but AIBU to think that there is a fine line between being close nit and being too involved as quite often it feels like there is absolutely no privacy at all I could sneeze and the entire family would know. I am not the only member of the family who feels like this and it really irritates me because I'm quite a reserved person and if I'm ill for example I don't want every man and his wife and their kids and the dogs to know about it.

YANBU. I couldn't live like this. The responsibility to enforce boundaries is on your shoulders. Your family can only know what you tell them, so I think it's time to reevaluate how you interact with them.

It’s totally subjective though.

You frequently read posts here about posters who are put out when their families want to see a new baby before they’re a month old, or annoyed that their MIL has offered to babysit their toddler.

Similarly, in real life I know people who can’t make a single adult decision without consulting their immediate family, or whose own parents still do their internet banking for them.

I’d be somewhere in the middle, but there would be some people who’d say I was freezing out my family, and others who’d say I need to cut the apron strings!

YANBU. Our family has just followed us on holiday. We come away for a break!

YANBU. My ex husband's family was like this. It drove us apart because I felt we had no privacy and somehow no freedom to live our own lives. I felt everything we/ I did was judged and discussed , but in their eyes it was just all part and parcel of being part of a " close ' family
. They even accused me of being damaged and unloved by my own family , because we kind of just let each other get on with things ( although we are there for each other if any of us need it ). It was all very complicated. All families are different , but they appeared not to respect any kind of boundaries and that's not for everyone, I'm afraid.