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To be angry with sister

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Batcrazymum3 · 17/08/2018 18:54

My sister and I have had an amazing relationship our whole life but this week she has really ticked me off.

She is older than me and over the last 2 years she has been going through a rough divorce. I have been there though it all. I've held her hand, cried with her, taken her for weekends away when the kids have been with dad and she's been down about it, the works. That's what sisters are for right?!

Things with the separation seemed to be going ok for a few months now and that's great , however we got some news that our elderly grandfather has now been diagnosed with lung cancer to go along with a few other issues. This has caused mum and dad to be extremely worried, so when I got some bad smear test results I confided in my sister. Mum has history of these issues so I am very frightened and worried about this. Last thing I want is M&D to be worried about me too.

13 hours after sharing my news with DS she summoned us all to Mum and dad's house, she's in tears because ex is moving away due to work and she doesn't know how shes going to cope with child issues. We got in to a bit of an argument and I called her selfish and now SHE wont talk to ME?!

Is it just he that thinks this is ridiculously selfish?!

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Foslady · 17/08/2018 18:57

I think I’’d be giving her some space too......

Sorry10 · 17/08/2018 18:58

Yes she’s selfish but it’s all about her at the minute and she probably can’t understand why you think she’s selfish. I’d leave her till tomorrow maybe and explain to her that everyone has things going on in life and would like the same level of support you gave her .

Batcrazymum3 · 17/08/2018 19:09

I get that I might be sounding very selfish here too but actually my biggest issue was dragging our DP into this and making them worry about her on top of everything else they have on their plate...

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BoneyBackJefferson · 17/08/2018 19:31

Batcrazymum3

As I see it (and I will probably get flamed for it) for 2 years you (and possibly your parents by the sound of it) have enabled your sister to act in this manner.

Everytime there has been a blip, a cry, or some comfort needed someone has been there for her.

Now that other things are going on you want this to change (no issue there) but you can't just expect her to stop doing what others have enabled her to do.

Go and speak to her.

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