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Religion

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LadyRussell · 17/08/2018 00:13

I was brought up in the Christian Faith as in C of E schools, Church on special occasions, not Christened. Also taught it was a bit rude and uncouth almost to discuss religious beliefs and it is a very personal thing and I am free to make my own choice but respect others. I am not not religious, in fact I consider myself an atheist but I do live my life trying to be a good and kind and non judgmental person (as far as possible).

I have friends on FB who are Mormans, Catholics etc none of whom air their views “publicly”.

I have a friend who I have known for a very long time and shared a lot of special times with who was not religious when I lived near her and saw a lot of her.

She is now incredibly religious (I think BAC but almost to the point of coming across as a bit brain washed) who keeps making ranting posts about “Him”, quoting Psalms, posting about the various groups of “sisters” she belongs to, preaching status updates and referring people (ie like me) as “unsaved” (including her own DH).

AIBU to feel that FB is not the place and want to either delete her (which would upset me) or pull her up on reffering to me and my “type” as fucking “unsaved” Hmm

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Neverender · 17/08/2018 00:15

Just unfollow her - done.

AnnieOH1 · 17/08/2018 00:16

Unfortunately more and more churches are issuing directives and guidance on engaging non-members via social media channels; some people are being extreme zealots in following those ideas. If she gets too much why not just mute her so that she no longer appears in your feed so much?

LadyRussell · 17/08/2018 00:17

So this is a thing? Like MLM?

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HerRoyalNotness · 17/08/2018 00:17

Oh I don’t know. I live in the states and it’s quite refreshing to see outward displays of religious beliefs here incl on social media. I’m not like that at all, but it doesn’t bother me that other people are. I’d just let it slide right off you as you scroll past

garethsouthgatesmrs · 17/08/2018 00:17

referring to her firends as "unsaved" is not OK and I would unfriend someone like that
BUT
it was a bit rude and uncouth almost to discuss religious beliefs
this is bit ridiculous. Why on earth can't someone discuss their beliefs?

DeadDoorpost · 17/08/2018 00:18

Mormon here! Funnily enough I had a friend who was a BAC and I couldn't stand him because he did the exact same. I've got friends on my list who have a whole variety of faiths and I'm totally fine with them, but he just... he went too far. I occasionally share things, but always in a "hey, you know some things about me, here's some more if you're interested". He was more "you NEED to read this or you're doomed".

I wouldn't blame you for getting rid of her off your list.

scottishdiem · 17/08/2018 00:18

Some denominations really emphasise the evangelising part of their faith so believers have to reach out. And adult converts tend to be the most pain-in-the-arse types in terms of preaching their beliefs to others.

Its her belief though so you are being unreasonable to think that she should not talk about it. You have the option of muting her as opposed to deleting here. You would then be able to drop in and out of her timeline to see what else she is saying.

However, if she is actively trying to convert you or constantly questioning your beliefs or stating hers are better then you would not be unreasonable in deleting her, even it does cause some short term upset to you.

scottishdiem · 17/08/2018 00:20

I live in the states and it’s quite refreshing to see outward displays of religious belief

Mmmmm. The United States? Currently led by Evangelical Christian President Pussy Grabber? That was some display of religious belief.....

HerRoyalNotness · 17/08/2018 00:20

Well I’m not speaking for the whole country, just people I follow. I think there is less shame to be religiously inclined than in other countries

garethsouthgatesmrs · 17/08/2018 00:21

what's BAC?

LadyRussell · 17/08/2018 00:22

Born Again Christian

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LadyRussell · 17/08/2018 00:23

this is bit ridiculous. Why on earth can't someone discuss their beliefs

My parents are in their 80s.

Different time ...

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BananaToffo · 17/08/2018 00:26

Tell her you'd like to talk to her about your new church...The Landover Baptists ("Where the worthwhile worship. Unsaved unwelcome") and direct her here www.landoverbaptist.org

She'll fit right in.

BlueJava · 17/08/2018 00:37

If she's posting stuff you don't like unfriend her.

garethsouthgatesmrs · 17/08/2018 00:40

ok - know lots of nice born again christians but others make me uncomfortable. I would unfriend and keep my distance. If you were posting calling all christians "bible bashers" she wouldn't accept it so why should you accept being called "unsaved" she's totally missing the point of Christianity by implying non-Christians are inferior and she is superior.

drastard · 17/08/2018 02:11

"she's totally missing the point of Christianity by implying non-Christians are inferior and she is superior."

No she isn't. She's bang on.

Religion is about superiority - the belief that you go to heaven and all the rest go to hell.

Religion poisons everything.

LadyRussell · 17/08/2018 15:48

Religion is about superiority - the belief that you go to heaven and all the rest go to hell Grin

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