I do bulk of childcare 2.5 days plus every afternoon although dp is incredibly hands on when he's here. I'm naturally more assertive than him and that's continued in our parenting styles. So when there's extra discipline needed it's mostly me who does etc.
Dc are 3.5 and just 2. The last few weeks they've been incredibly trying. Ds not listening at all, volatile and pushing boundaries. Dd just standard 2 yo stuff.
This evening, after a long day out with them both, and more of the same, I asked dp if he could bath them both whilst I had a tea. All fine. Except ds refused to go to the bath, and was tearing round the living room pretending to be superman. Dp repeatedly asked him to get upstairs, ds repeatedly refused and continued going hyper in the living room.
Normally at this point I'd have stepped in, except I didn't. I just sat there and drank my tea. Meanwhile dd started screaming. I still didn't step in.
Now dp is a bit put out because he says he feels like I was sat there judging him. I wasn't, I just wanted to drink my tea, and not have to always be the one who cracks the whip. Wibu?