DP being unreasonable?

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I've name changed for this. My DP is causing a real issue with alcohol. For whatever reason, he rarely drinks any more. Could be to do with all the sport he does, it's happened in the past year.

He's now become very weird about me drinking. If I'm with him it's not so bad, depends on the night, but if I go out with a friend and have a few drinks, it's a real issue!
I get told 'my face has changed', doesn't matter how normally I'm behaving. I rarely drink now because of this. Today I went to lunch with my friend and had three glasses of wine and a cocktail with food over the space of six hours. Came home a bit merry, but very far from pissed, and chatted as normal etc. His mood was terrible and eventually he brought up this 'your face has changed' nonsense again. I just walked away.

My face is fine, I'm not drunk, I drink around once a month, if that, never drink anything at home as he's so annoying. AIBU to think this isn't normal and I should be able to have a fun lunch with my friend without coming home to this?

Sorry but I'd shut that shit down immediately
He doesn't want to drink-fine. What you do however is not up to him, I'd have a serious conversation & tell him to keep his ridiculous observations to himself or fuck off.
Btw I'm sure you'll get some posters along shortly to tell you they think what you consumed today is a lot & he's just looking out for you but I'd respectfully disagree.

He is trying to control your completely normal behaviour. It won't stop with drinking, I promise you. Huge red flag here. Get rid.

Btw I'm sure you'll get some posters along shortly to tell you they think what you consumed today is a lot & he's just looking out for you

Not me! OP you're an adult, you're legally allowed to consume alcohol and you're not rolling home in the middle of the afternoon pissed as a newt and singing loudly as you wobble your way down the street. Tell him he can do whatever he wants, but he can't dictate to you.

Having said that, it might be worth a chat so that you know why he's suddenly taken against drinking. Not saying that means you should stop too, just that at least you'd understand.

MortyVicar We now live in a different country, his country (Europe not a non drinking country). He has said in London he felt like he was on holiday, whereas here he feels he likes to do sport frequently, has more responsibilities etc, is looking after his body etc etc. All good, his choice. I just don't get where he gets off judging me for not being exactly the same as him. I've told him previously that it's very controlling and he just doesn't see it.