AIBU - Advice pls

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First time poster sorry if I waffle!!
I have a long term friendship and our children are great friends. Friend and partner are godparents to my kids. My friend and I have taken kids away for years at end of summer holidays and we had previously spoken about booking this last minute this year to get a deal.
Just found out that this year she has arranged to go away with her partner and a couple of other families and not invited my family.
I have some history with her partner in that he once had a discrepency with someone we all knew and my friend confided in me so i 'know' and was there for her while she dealt with it. It breaks my heart to be excluded like this - It's not the first time this has happened (meals out, bbq's etc) AIBU to detatch myself from friendship or am i just being too sensitive?? Thanks for reading.

I'm confused about the discrepancy? Do you think this has something to do with why you've not been invited?

He means more than you do. He is her priority and she is able to handle your upset rather than his.
You are further down her list than u could possibly imagine.
Sorry to be blunt.
You know too much

People do move on and friendships do change. The people we holidayed with when the kids were younger we no longer holiday with, but we're still friends. I've lived in my city for 20 years and was out for dinner last weekend with people I'd not been out for dinner with before. It's probably nothing personal and nothing you've done or not done. Try not to dwell on it.

In case it’s helpful for you.....I sort of take the view for myself that my close friends also have other groups of different close friends as well, lots of other overlapping friendships rather than exclusively with me.

So I see them doing different things and with different people as well as the things I am involved in.

I have to remind myself that sometimes it’s an event including me, and sometimes my friends do things with other people as well.

I feel healthy and happy for having acceptance that this is how life is - for me anyway.

I don’t know if that is helpful.
x

I think it’s normal for her to be going away with other people as friendships aren’t exclusive - but if you had talked about plans and now she’s not honouring them without telling you, that’s a bit shit.

I wouldn’t worry about the BBQs etc - it’s quite normal for friends to not always invite each other to everything.

Has her behaviour changed suddenly since the discrepancy (not sure what that means but presumably some kind of cheating / affair?). If so it may be that she finds it hard to pretend everything is normal around you since you know what happened.

Thanks for the replies.
The discrepancy was some time ago and whilst his behaviour towards me changed, hers didn’t. I get that people have different friendship groups as I do too but it think it’s particularly raw because we have always gone away together. We see each other most days so it’s not that we’ve drifted apart.