To make school aware of big summer fallout?

[Toxicgames]

Dc2 is about to go into year 11 and has some special needs. They are part of a friendship group of others who all have some sort of SEN or mental health issues or difficulties.

There have been constant issues with this friendship group mostly because of their needs and one other pupil in particular has caused concern as far as my children are concerned being manipulative and controlling with DC2 and also at times being down right nasty. They seem to delight in DC2 failing only DC2 can't see this and seems to be obsessed with them. This particular child has mental health issues and a personality disorder and safeguarding at school have previously been involved.

No matter what I say or no matter how awful the child was with DC2 they continued to be friends with the child even to a point where they came to a pact to not put effort in and 'fail together' so they could go to the same college, only DC2 failed their mocks and predictably the other child passed with flying colours leaving DC2 with a massive and almost impossible catch up and the other child saying that's your problem.

During the last week of term there was a huge fall out in the group and they split and there has been a lot of nastiness.

They are going back in two weeks and I am dreading it.
At the moment the entire group is sending each other petty messages on social media with again some manipulative bullshit from some..

Aibu to mention it to the pastoral team when they start back?

Does anyone have any advice on how to stop DC2 being so bloody gullible :(?

Christ, I would have been fuming about the "let's not study" pact.

Can you get your DC off social media?

I don’t know what you can do re DC2 but definitely speak to the pastoral team, it’s much easier to keep an eye out for things when you are fully informed.

ban your DC from social media

I have previously and frequently banned DC2 from social media. They find other ways of getting on when I am not there...

I did have an app on their phone which blocked all social media completely and thought they were safe to use their phone for just YouTube and Music as there is no WiFi at home until I realised they had data shared from their phone to their laptop (they use as Dyslexic when I thought they were doing work.

Currently no WiFi and I haven't topped up their phone (and behaviour is massively improved!)

The other child does not have a personality disorder. That is not able to be diagnosed until someone is an adult.

I don't think the term "personality disorder" was being used in a technical sense.

Without going into masses of details the child is very clear that they have been recently diagnosed with a very specific personality disorder and has used it as reason for their behaviour. Given they are mid teens I had thought this possible.

Possible emerging traits but it is absolutely bot possible to have a clear diagnosis of PD under 25.

Ah more of the manipulative behaviour possibly then?
Its always I am sorry I lost my temper/was nasty /did x, y, z, I know I'm a terrible person and a monster but I have (insert specific personality disorder here)