MIL filling the house with fluffy toys...

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I have a good relationship with my PIL and they’ve been very good to DH and I.

DD is first and only GC for them which is a source of great excitement and they dote on her which I’m really happy about and grateful for.

The thing is, DD is merely weeks old and each time they come round they bring multiples of cuddly toys! They’re so random as well - this weekend she brought round a teddy bear wearing a Christmas jumper

We now have dozens of little (and some huge) cuddly toys filling her nursery. Toys she won’t really play with for a good while yet. To be totally honest I am wondering if it would be unreasonable of me to “release” some of these fluffy critters back into the wilderness...

There wouldn’t really be a way of asking her to stop either, as although we do get on she’s quite sensitive and on the brink of what we believe is dementia/Alzheimer’s so I feel as though raising it with her would be causing an issue for no good reason.

I would raise it with DH but even he made the comment the other day of “more toys...”

I just made my DD’s clear out their soft toys. We ended up taking two bin bags full to the charity shop... they had about 50 each on the ends of their bed, it was awful. I really can’t stand soft toys, they’re so pointless.

Take them to the charity shop and next time she brings some either you or DH need to say, “blimey Sue that’s enough soft toys now thank you, she could open her own soft toy shop at this rate!”

I had the same problem with my MIL when DD was a little baby. I kept most of them and staged a teddy bears picnic, took a photo so show her they'd been used and then gradually put them into the charity bags that come through the door.

Dementia is an awful thing, she may not remember she's brought any so it should be easier for you to move them along without a fuss.

Op my dm has altzimers and has become fixated with soft toys.

Let her be. Charity shop them. I am so sorry she has altzimers it’s a terrible road. You will need to be very strong as a family.

To let her be and just take some of these soft toys up the charity shop is my instinct... thank you for sharing that your DM is also fixated on cuddly toys... it’s so very sad. It breaks my heart that we have to re-tell her her GD’s name each time and she has also forgotten our last name (she remarried). I feel so bad for my DH.

It’s horrible op. My dm cuddles them and dolls too. I have to say I hate dolls and they are all over her house. Gives me the creeps.

There’s loads of help out here though if you go through the Altzimers society.

Can I add and I know you probably wouldn’t dont leave her alone with your dd for a second. Mum though my DGS was a doll. Her DGGS. You can imagine thf dangers. Xx