My dad said I should train my baby

[NotSoThinLizzy]

So visting mum and dad having dinner and wee one is grizzly and gurning about dinner he's 11 months. And according to my dad I need to walk away everytime he cries and only go back to him when he stops and continue like that every day all day not even for sleep training like surely it's not me that thinks that's OTT. I bitched at him saying no wonder all his kids are fucked up said quite calmly

@StringandGlitter that article has to be a joke 😂

Oops name changed now. I thought I was linking to the actual article! Didn’t realise there was s comment piece underneath.

I wouldn't worry whether your reply was a bit sharp or not. After all, your dad is happy to dole out criticism of your parenting methods without worrying if you'll be upset by it.

People are weird. I was told my (at the time) 4mo was spoiled because I picked him up when he cried

@ladydickisathingapparently my mum tells me with delight she did the same to me at her health visitors advice, left with clean nappy, fed and apparently I was fine to cry myself to sleep.
I was born in winter.
Mum always says did you no harm. I think it did.

You need to train your dad. MIL likes to give terrible, unwanted advice, I just look at her and say 'no' no apology or discussion, just 'no' and then change the subject, SIL tries to calmly discuss why she thinks MIL is wrong, SIL gets given a lot more advice than I do and MIL gets huffy about SIL not taking it, she just glares at me and I pretend not to notice.

Apparently my wee one is spoiled been said by quite a few people also what annoys me is ohh he has you wrapped round his finger

@Hidillyho
Walk away from your dad each time he makes these wanky remarks and only go back when he stops

This is the best advice I've ever read on Mumsnet. Please follow it.

Just say you want a better relationship with your child than you had with your oarents

Train your baby. He's not a fecking monkey is he?!

Tell your dad to mind his own business.

Your father is utterly wrong, please ignore him. Respond to and cuddle your baby.

And your Dad is a parenting expert I suppose. Wtf does he know. Your response was right.

I’m always amazed by how ignorant (harsh, I know) people are when they give out that sort of advice. Do they really think that your 11 month LO has the complexity and clarity of thought and mind to manipulate his Mum? The child can barely walk, communicates with noises, can’t control bladder or bowel, can’t drink or smoke or vote and yet your Dad thinks LO can plan and manipulate his Mum, with the added benefit of totally pissing off his grandad.

Parenting has changed a great deal since I was a child. I agree with everyone else. You love, care and nurture your baby as much as you like. You certainly cannot spoil him at this age. I do know what people mean about the advert. My mother used to stand over me goading me to cry.

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That’s heart breaking.

@Hidillyho
Walk away from your dad each time he makes these wanky remarks and only go back when he stops

• best advice ever!

Or actually walk away - leaving the baby crying at the dinner table disturbing his dinner

^lighthearted btw - I couldn't leave my ds crying for comfort either.

ladydick Yes, I knew someone who used to leave their baby down the garden so she couldn't hear him crying, she used to laugh when telling the story that her neighbours would say to her "Your baby cries a lot, doesn't he?" . Couldn't understand why the adult son eventually ended up have nothing to do with her.

I can't even sleep train my wee one as soon as he cries I'm there. He barely cries as it is. Quite a happy chappy though he's teething and tired at dinner. I'm hoping that he'll start sleeping through on his own 😂