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Wedding

15 replies

holiday65 · 15/08/2018 19:04

I am going to my friends daughter wedding. I have been asked to make some cakes for after the service. The parents are well off but don’t like parting with their money. Should I just make them or say I am unable to help?

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ElainaElephant · 15/08/2018 19:07

Could they be your wedding gift?

Any reason you don't want to, other than you feel the parents should pay for them? They might not be paying for the wedding.

Are you a good baker?

AliceRR · 15/08/2018 19:07

Why have they asked you?

RandomMess · 15/08/2018 19:07

Sounds like a mind field so I would politely decline as "you aren't able to"!

imnotreally · 15/08/2018 19:08

Depends. Is it everyone bring a plate in which case yabu or are they asking you to make the wedding cake in which case yanbu

bridgetreilly · 15/08/2018 19:09

Tell them how much you will be charging (including a hefty amount for your time) and ask if that's okay, and if not you'll totally understand that they'll need to shop around for the best deal.

MilkTwoSugarsThanks · 15/08/2018 19:10

Do you think you've been invited because of your baking abilities? I don't know anyone who had their parents' friends at their wedding 🤷🏼‍♀️.

I'd say no tbh.

GreenMeerkat · 15/08/2018 19:12

@MilkTwoSugarsThanks I had a whole table of my mum's friends and their partners at mine.

Saying that, one was my godmother and two I've known since I was tiny. The other two I get on with well and my mum wanted them to come (her and my dad paid so who am I to argue?)

ShumpaLumpa · 15/08/2018 19:15

I would say if you don't want to. They didn't even offer to pay you or to even cover ingredient money. CFs. Unless there is a massive srip feed coming.

Tistheseason17 · 15/08/2018 20:20

Would you enjoy making them or is it a burden?
The answer to this question will give you your answer!

Crunchymum · 15/08/2018 20:22

Have they specified number of cakes?

Are they trying to get you to make dessert? Shock

AndromedaPerseus · 15/08/2018 20:27

I’d be unable to help CFs. Why can’t they make their own dds cakes?

HotblackDesiatoto · 15/08/2018 20:35

Should I just make them or say I am unable to help?

What an odd question. Do you want to make them and are able to? In which case do. If you don't want to or aren't able to, then don't.
Why ask here?

PrincessConsuelaBannanaHammock · 15/08/2018 20:37

@MilkTwoSugarsThanks I'm not married, but but my sister's had some of my parents friends at their weddings.

OP I would go with what pp suggested and give them as a wedding gift.

Mumshotel · 15/08/2018 20:43

How many people is it for? What sort of cakes have they asked for?

WillowRose79 · 15/08/2018 20:46

We had so many of our parents friends at the wedding- we know them all and was nice to celebrate with them. If you don't want to make them then don't if you do do

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