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Selfish buggy users on buses

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SleepingStandingUp · 15/08/2018 16:41

Aibu to think if you take your child in to a bus in a buggy, then take child out and go upstairs, that you collapse your buggy so someone else can get on, given an empty buggy counts in the only 2 rule??
First bus went past empty, second has an open buggy taking up the buggy (not wheelchair) space. She did after the driver had a word eventually collapse it so I could get on (my son was on a tube feed and o2 so I couldn't collapse ours) but grumbled and moaned.
It's like me dumping shopping bags all along the back row so no one else can sit there!!

Then someone else got on and had to collapse as we were now dull whilst some moaned from the back of the bus about how the driver shouldn't keep stopping and letting people on like this as though it's OK for me to leave 30 minutes early knowing I'll likely have to wait for a bus but God forbid anyone should be delayed 3 minutes whilst someone collapses their buggy.

And yes the wheelchair space was being used by a young girl in a wheelchair as is intended so no discussion on that.
And no it isn't sensible to collapse a pushchair besides a main road with a young child and bags of shopping when there is a chance you can get on and use the space that is there for buggies.

I just think it's utterly selfish to use a space you don't need just because you don't give a damn who else can't get on!

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SleepingStandingUp · 20/08/2018 02:48

Thank you but not really really Takingfrog. It's just another piece of stuff to cart about. We do every where by public transport but do think the new buggy will give me more confidence to assert for a space.
Today we got the train and sat in the aisle because the wheelchair / buggy space was full of luggage. I don't feel like anyone would bother moving their crap just for a buggy, even one containing a kid that clearly looks extra needs. Anyway, it'll be here this week coming

Buses here are pretty frequent, I'll still wait for a new bus if its full but only if they're actually being used

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elkiedee · 20/08/2018 02:57

While people supposedly have to make way for wheelchair users, I've twice been on a bus with the same woman who lives round the corner from me in a mobility scooter type buggy, and she's basically had to stay in the biggest space nearby as parents have refused to budge. Not impressed!

When my kids were small I once had one of them with me on a bus in his buggy, and the other space was occupied by a buggy occupied by a load of cans of lager!

I can't see how if a kid is in a normal buggy but using feeding tube and oxygen, people can't realise that this is a baby with disabilities and accept it as similar to a wheelchair.

SleepingStandingUp · 20/08/2018 03:02

If people refuse to move for an actual wheelchair they really aren't going to move for my cute son in a buggy.

Aagghh buggy so full of shopping the kid can't get in at all really gives me the rage

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SnuggyBuggy · 20/08/2018 07:08

It also doesn't help that children without additional needs are kept in buggies longer than they used to be.

Sleepyblueocean · 20/08/2018 07:25

Are they though? I don't see many children in buggies past the age of 3. I grew up in the 70's and prams had a seat on them for the toddler. They weren't walking.

Motherhood101Fail · 20/08/2018 07:29

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SnuggyBuggy · 20/08/2018 07:29

I'm not saying there aren't reasonable reasons but I find it a real stretch to believe all the 4-5 year olds I've seen being pushed in buggies are all disabled or look old for their age.

I was out of a buggy by 3 when DSis was born and my DM didn't want a double buggy.

Sleepyblueocean · 20/08/2018 07:34

I don't know any school aged child who uses a buggy apart from those with medical reasons.

SleepingStandingUp · 20/08/2018 11:18

The thing is if you see an older kid in a buggy, you may well not be able to tell if they've got a need or if it's just for convenience. I suspect in areas of low car ownership older buggy use is higher because that mile commute to school looks different on foot than by car for example, or carrying a few weeks shopping with a 4 to on the bus

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SnuggyBuggy · 20/08/2018 11:43

I wouldn't feel at all qualified to judge any individual child in a buggy, it's the overall number that strikes me. When my DSis was 3-4 we were going for outings in London with plenty of walking and getting tubes, I don't see why a typical 4 year old couldn't do the same.

SleepingStandingUp · 20/08/2018 11:57

I imagine if you've got a 2 hour train journey around that, a child who is prone to getting tired or running off or dawdling then the idea of pushing them around becomes more attractive...

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SnuggyBuggy · 20/08/2018 13:19

Yes but I guess there comes a point when you have to bite the bullet and get them used to walking. They won't learn not to wander off if kept in a buggy for mums convenience.

SleepingStandingUp · 20/08/2018 19:31

No I agree, I'm just imagining why you would if you don't need to. Mine likes to walk as much as possible so I end up with child in one hand and pushchair in other.

If he gets off o2 before he gets to a sensible age he's going on reins!!

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