What am I doing wrong?

[Jani269]

I am questioning what I am doing wrong, I have a great OH and 2 LOs but feel like I have no-one. I go out to events with my LO friends and their mums but have no friends of my own. I work in a small team and don't get invited to night outs. My LO's attend most parties and social events.
Social media is a nightmare and I see people having big parties and gatherings for birthdays, anniversaries egg but I would have no-one to invite.
I'm wondering what is wrong with me!

Idk op I'm in the same boat as you. Except I don't have a OH and only one child. I was told once dd started school I'd make some mum friends and although she has been invited to party's and I chat with some of them outside during drop off a pick ups it's never gone further than that. I've been so loanly during these holidays I actually cried this morning I can't wait to go to work tomorrow.
Have you tried volunteering?? I do that when dd is in school. Not really made friends (which I'd like) but it helps to add a bit more variety to my life week. Depending on what you choose to do you could easily make friends! Just seems the thing I'm interested is mostly for people who are 50+ and as lovely as they are, don't fancy meeting up outside of hours with me..

My sister moved somewhere new recently and used an app called 'Mush' which is for finding new Mum friends. I just googled and it says this:

What is Mush?
Mush is the #1 app for mums, helping mums everywhere to instantly become part of their local mum community. Mush makes being a mum more brilliant. It was created by Sarah & Katie who bonded over the nightmare of “two under two” and who wanted an easy and fun way to find local mum friends.

It might be that there are lots of people in your situation who would also like to make new friends? Possibly a bit niche as it's just 'Mum friends' but worth a go anyway.

Also there is 'Meet Up' (a website) where people with similar interests organise social stuff in your local area - that would be more of a thing without the kids and about you. I imagine being pro-active is the key & you can make a really positive change, perhaps you just haven''t met your 'people' yet, I'm sure there is nothing 'wrong'!

I'm sorry to hear oneboobbiggerthantheother that you've had a cry this morning, it just shouldn't be like that.
I would love to volunteer and it's an excellent idea though I work FT and with 2 LO it's hard.
I've looked at Meet Up but the things I enjoy seem to be for 50+.
Thanks chipsandgin, I'm hoping I'll meet 'my people'....just not sure how and/or where, being proactive is not as easy as it seems though. I don't have babysitters outside of school and no friends to ask so my only time out is with the kids.
It's comforting to know I'm not alone in my situation but I am so alone.

Well I've just joined/installed that mush app that chipsandgin mentioned.
Have a look at that it looks really good! Especially if you don't get any free time without the kids. It's basically mums looking for friends/company.. and a bit like a mum FB too. It's amazing how many people are in the same boat.
I like the look of the meetup site too but will probably leave that until the little one is at school when I get more free/me time.
I'd really love some female/mum friends so MUSH looks like a winner for now! 🤞