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To find this disgusting?

80 replies

supersop60 · 14/08/2018 17:12

I don't know how to start. My DP has some unsavoury habits, but mostly I overlook them because he's basically a decent bloke.
This afternoon I was in the garden and heard my DD (17) shouting at him. This is most unusual. It turns out he was exfoliating his feet, sitting at his desk in the office, and he had fetched the baking tray from the oven to let the bits of skin fall on to. DD said it was disgusting, and he promised to wash it. She shouted at him again, took the tray off him and chucked it on the pile of stuff waiting to go to the tip.
I'm with her. Surely no-one can think she was BU?
P has retreated to the shed - I shall bring it up with him later.

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SecretWitch · 14/08/2018 21:50

Dang. I had an ex who used to blow his nose into his (used) underwear. He did his own laundry.

devilinme · 14/08/2018 21:58

After my DH died I was sorting through some of his stuff and found an envelope marked TOENAIL.
It contained one of his big toenails

Do I win?

joinUsAgain · 15/08/2018 01:51

You think it's acceptable for a child to shout at her father in his house and then throw away baking trays?

The issue is how you've "raised" your child.

9amTrain · 15/08/2018 01:55

What the fuck? I literally recoiled in horror when I read baking tray.

The sick fuck!!!!

TheDowagerCuntess · 15/08/2018 04:57

devilinme - at least the toenail was contained! Grim, but not as grim as feet skin in a cooking implement. EnvyGrin

joinUsAgain - if your way of raising children is to kowtow to the head of the house, no matter how unacceptable their behaviour, then I think the OP definitely has the right idea?! Her DD is 17, old enough to know you don't do that, and the shouting is 'most unusual', according to the OP.

allthegoodusernameshavegone · 15/08/2018 05:05

Fantastic thread, I wonder what’s been done that we are blissfully unaware of ?

CommanderDaisy · 15/08/2018 05:23

My Dh used to pick his toenails while on the couch. By that, I meand scrape the crap from under and around the side of each nail. Then he'd just let the gunk fall where it may.
it took several years of complaining and complaing till he largely ceased the practice.
If he forgets, and I catch him - I chuck the most non lethal object near me at him. Usually a cushion. He stops pretty fast then.
( I'm fairly sure the bugger still does it when I'm not around)

I'm with your DD - absolutely foul.

jemihap · 15/08/2018 05:49

I think it's a bit of a generational thing, specifically the 'boomers'... or perhaps it's just my parents!
They both have homes that are tidy and presentable on the face of it, but it's only on closer observation that you notice they have some questionable household hygiene habits and don't seem to understand the concept of cross contamination etc.

Using dish clothes to wipe the floor, snotty hankies to wipe the coffee table, using the same cloth to clean the toilet AND the rest of the bathroom including the taps, keeping and continually using a fetid, stinking, dog pee soaked floor mop for years instead of replacing it.

TheDowagerCuntess · 15/08/2018 06:19

I don't think it's generational - if a tea towel slipped off the rail onto the floor, say, DM would whisk it straight into the washing machine.

She would be 80 now, but growing up, was always quite scrupulous about this sort of thing.

I think some people are just a bit clueless.

I've always scoffed at people that won't eat other people's baking, cooking, etc. But I'm having big ol' second thoughts about it myself right now. Thank God washing up bowls aren't a thing here, but feck knows what sort of things people have got up to with their other kitchen stuff... EnvyEnvy

HelpmeobiMN · 15/08/2018 06:52

I agree that it’s gross but why take the tray to the tip and add to landfill when all it needed was a wash?!

chipswndbeans · 15/08/2018 07:09

Do you eat meat? The pan probably has already had worse bits of dry skin in it already.

Aprilsinparis · 15/08/2018 08:06

See......now, I had this conversation with my son about his DF. Why do men expect you to pick up, where their mothers left off. For instance, my H leaves skid marks down the toilet, clears his throat and spits it down the pan, but always does it so it sticks to the toilet bowl. He digs at his toe nails, and leaves the bits in the bidet, won't get up unless I shout him fifty times, thinks it's hilarious the more evil his farts.

Christ, the list is bloody endless. I genuinely think he has not mentally matured since he was twelve years old. Oh, and when he's ill jeeez, he is the only person on the planet who's ever had a cold and if they have it's no where near as bad as his........In the name of God and all that's holy, why are some men such dirty, immature bastards.

JaretsGirlfren · 15/08/2018 08:16

My ExH used to shave his beard into my footspa Envy Angry i was only using it because I was pregnant...and he left all of the hair on it.

LongSummerDays · 15/08/2018 08:23

Ah well I didn't really want breakfast today.

🤮

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supersop60 · 15/08/2018 08:24

I don't think it's a generational thing. It may be a family thing, though. Interesting that my DP is disgusted by his parents allowing the cat to walk all over the kitchen surfaces (as am I), yet his own bodily bits can be flung far and wide. I'm tempted to make a list now.

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Breadsticksandhummus · 15/08/2018 09:41

This thread is vile!!!

StoneofDestiny · 15/08/2018 10:42

Oh gawd - makes me want to heave when I see cats crawling over kitchen tops and dogs and cats lying in beds etc. When you think where they’ve been and what they’ve been up to!

Celticrose · 15/08/2018 10:45

This reminds me of a story on tv by an antique expert who was at a dinner party and everyone was admirimg her antique gravy boat. He did not likevto tell her that is eas not a gravy boat but an antique ladies piss pot used by ladies when travelling by carriageShock

TriKitGirl · 15/08/2018 10:48

Have to share this. 24yo DSD lived with us for a while. One night she was preparing a dinner party for her friends. I was going out but DH was joining in. I came down to find her peeling potatoes and cooking generally wearing rubber gloves. I asked her where she'd found the gloves and she said they were from the cleaning box, so I told her that they were what I wore to clean the loo, drains etc. She didn't care and carried on saying no one would know. So glad I didn't have to eat her food that night!

tenredthings · 15/08/2018 10:48

Do the people who think it's gross have any idea how much dead skin we shed continuously ? Why is a bit of skin off feet any worse than a lump of dead animal meat on a baking tray? Surely a good wash and it's fine.

WiddlinDiddlin · 15/08/2018 10:53

Hang on a minute...

He went and GOT something to stop the bits landing on the floor.... ok it was a baking tray but still.. he didn't just shave bits of foot skin off and let it land on the floor..

Sorry I think he needs a prize for having thought of htat, not to be pilloried for his choice of (washable) receptacle!

9amTrain · 15/08/2018 11:00

@tenredthings the amount of dead skin we shed without our knowledge is not comparable to someone knowingly using a cooking utensil to put their dead foot skin on... And neither is the fact that dead animals are put on it. That's what they're there for in the first place.

9amTrain · 15/08/2018 11:01

Jesus Christ how can anyone defend this. I'd rather have let it fall on the floor, at least you'd just hoover it up and wouldn't have to feel like the cooking utensil is tainted with dad's dead skin forever more.

DarlingNikita · 15/08/2018 11:07

wouldn't have to feel like the cooking utensil is tainted with dad's dead skin forever more.

People are being really neurotic about this. What a weird thread.

My Dh used to pick his toenails while on the couch. By that, I meand scrape the crap from under and around the side of each nail. Then he'd just let the gunk fall where it may.

Now that IS disgusting.

diodati · 15/08/2018 11:08

So funny! Poor man, hiding in the shed...bless his cotton socks.😂