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To hate other parents?

80 replies

slithytove · 14/08/2018 13:48

Like the ones who let their kids into the section ‘you must be under this height to play’, who then wreck it for the little ones?

Or the ones who hog 2 of the 5 go karts, rotating their own / their friends kids while the queue of kids grows longer and longer —and My 3 year old cries because she don’t understand—

Incidentally said parent also came and shouted at the queue when she was asked to give the other kids a go.

Fucking hate some people.

Breathes.

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Jaxhog · 14/08/2018 14:41

Where were the staff when this happened? Surely they should have stepped in?

Good question!

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slithytove · 14/08/2018 15:00

nadia my priority was to reassure my children and help them to understand the situation, I was not going to step in between 2 grown women having a verbal battle - which certainly wouldn’t have helped my kids feel better.

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NadiaLeon · 14/08/2018 15:02

Apologies. I misunderstood. I thought someone was shouting at your kids and you did nothing.

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slithytove · 14/08/2018 15:02

And I think accepting it is the wrong thing to do, as that means that the entitled, rude, unfair people will win the day.

But thanks for the pop psychology - rest assured I don’t feel inadequate.

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slithytove · 14/08/2018 15:06

No she was shouting at sassy grandma - but in front of the queue of kids.

I did reassure them and they were fine especially once they got on the go karts.

The reason I didn’t go over to begin with to point out there was a queue is because I didn’t want to leave the 3 kids I was with, one of which is 3 years old and one of which isn’t mine - plus, other than DD’s strop, we were all pretty chilled in the sunshine.

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NadiaLeon · 14/08/2018 15:12

Acceptance doesn't mean doing nothing, but accepting that people are dicks, life is unfair and then NOT getting in an emotional state about it. That's acceptance. It is not rolling over and doing nothing.

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slithytove · 14/08/2018 15:14

Oh yes I agree there. But sometimes a good rant on mumsnet is just what’s needed, especially after I have modelled lovely —fake— calmness and tolerance to my kids. It doesn’t come naturally!

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slithytove · 14/08/2018 15:14

And why doesn’t strike out work on iPads.

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YeTalkShiteHen · 14/08/2018 15:15

Same on iPhone OP, go to the italic I at the bottom and do it that way Smile

FrayedHem · 14/08/2018 15:16

Looks like your iPad is converting 2 single dashes into 1 long one.

ScreechOwlx · 14/08/2018 15:18

Nah! Not being unreasonable! I usually shout really loudly "it'll be our turn soon" while muttering "morons" under my breath Hmm that usually moves em on!

TimetohittheroadJack · 14/08/2018 15:18

I absolutely agree with Barbarianmum. Theres a bit in my local park that is older kids - the ladders are far enough off the ground that small kids can’t get up themselves. And guess what happens, yes the parent end up ‘helping’ toddlers, which means the older kids that it’s designed for can’t use it without risking hurting them.

Same with skate parks, if your toddler wants a shot go in the morning, when all the teens are still in bed!

There are few enough places for older children to play without toddlers monopolising them.

NadiaLeon · 14/08/2018 15:20

Screech - why not just ask them directly? Muttering under ones breath gets peoples backs up

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slithytove · 14/08/2018 15:21

I don’t let mine (5 and 3) into the bigger kids areas. Despite my mums best efforts to shove them into the 8+ playground whenever we visit her. Agree it’s not fair.

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funinthesun18 · 14/08/2018 15:22

I hate it when older kids bounce around in and hog everything in the area they aren’t supposed to be in and ruin it for the little ones. They have an enormous play area right near them to run around in Hmm

YeTalkShiteHen · 14/08/2018 15:24

I think it shouldn’t be younger vs older. More that if all parents ensured their kids stuck to their areas and not hogging equipment life would be much simpler for everyone!

funinthesun18 · 14/08/2018 15:29

And when teenagers start running around on parks Hmm Some acting like absolute idiots and nearly knocking children flying. Other hogging swings while they look at their fucking phones. One girl about 14 was being an idiot and fell off something cracking her head open in the process. Her and her friends shouldn’t have been climbing on the equipment the way they were 🤷🏼‍♀️
Move on brats. You’re past it now...

nancy75 · 14/08/2018 15:31

I have come to terms with the fact that dislike all parents and children (apart from my own) equally. Now that my Dd is older I am so happy to be relieved of the trauma of visiting the park & being surrounded by parents & kids & don’t even get me started on soft play

MrsJayy · 14/08/2018 15:35

no shit grandma sounds awesome she has probably dealt with shit in her time Grin

How annoying for everybody i used to hate when parents refused to watch their kids and let them hog everything yanbu.

Seafoodeatit · 14/08/2018 15:39

YANBU. You see all sorts of horrible crap at places where parents have the option to ignore their children, I always get the staff if it's getting too much, our local soft play are good at dealing with issues once you point it out otherwise they don't wander around at all. Just over a year ago I was at a new soft play, and whilst watching my son I saw a child no bigger than him (7 years old) getting beaten up by two older boys, they started kicking him in the head! I made the staff aware who went to break it up, they then took ages to find out where all the parents of the children were, it was really upsetting to watch, I would have climbed up myself if I didn't have my baby to hold.

ProudThrilledHappy · 14/08/2018 15:45

I’m afraid my hatred is for the reverse, particularly the arrogant dickhead last week who shouted at my ds for coming down a slide as his darling toddler ran out in front of the end of it, so the two collided.

There is clear signage that one area is for under 4s and the rest for older children, but this twat had his little toddler “walking” across the balance beams and trying to climb a net to the higher slide, all the while demanding the kids around him be more careful.

Total prick!!

Sorry, rant over

Limpshade · 14/08/2018 15:45

Ha, this thread is very cathartic!

We have a huge sandpit in our local park and DH came home from taking our DD1 to it absolutely raging because other kids had been helping themselves to her bucket and spade set. I don't think he minded them playing with the pieces, it was more that they were taking them off with them to wherever their parents were sitting on their phones. He was particularly spitting tacks at the fact he'd asked one little boy for something back as he was trying to leave, and the boy's mum said very curtly, "Excuse me, he's playing with that!"

DH doesn't get much one-on-one time with DD outside the house, although I do. He did not understand why I wasn't deeply, deeply shocked by this unbelievable behaviour Grin

highheelsandbobblehats · 14/08/2018 15:46

Oh I hate this. My eldest DS is 7 now, but I remember taking him to soft play when he was about a year old. The baby/toddler area was in a different room to the big frame, so we were just hanging out there. This lad of about 7 came in and started throwing the soft play around. Some of it was fairly big and heavy too. I asked him to stop after my son was almost knocked over and politely pointed to the height chart. All of a sudden his mother came over and starting screaming at me not to shout at her 'f-ing son', and asking me who the hell I thought I was. She grabbed him by the wrist and marched him away from me, as clearly she didn't want him associating with the likes of me. As they walked off, he looked over his shoulder and stuck his tongue out at me.

About 10 minutes later, he came out of the room where the big frame was to the table where his mum and her mates were sat not paying the slightest attention. He was in floods of tears as he'd been hurt by a bigger kid. I definitely didn't have a private smirk at the karma. Nope, definitely not.

MelanieSmooter · 14/08/2018 16:00

Works both ways - my 7yo was trying to read to himself, quietly, in the library this morning and a small (under 2yo) kept walking over and grabbing the book off him. Completely unsupervised by his mother, which was stupid as my DS has ASD and she’s lucky mine didn’t thump hers tbh.

Basically, people need to parent their kids. Lazy fuckers.

Raspberryberetthekindyoufind · 14/08/2018 16:12

We were abroad and had bought DS an inflatable to ride on in the pool. Other kids asked to use it when DS was not and that was fine but one parent came up to DS grabbed the inflatable of him and started to walk off with it.
DH ran over and said that’s my sons inflatable that you have just taken off him.
The man said we are only borrowing it to take to the other pool were my children can play on it 😡
DH said “er no we have bought that for our son to play with”
The man said “well there is no point is buying one when we can borrow yours, we are going home in two days so you can have it back then”
He actually had the front to call my DH rude when he took it back from him.
About 30 minutes later a child came running over and grabbed the inflatable off DS and went running off with it. DH followed the kid running to the other pool (guess whose kid it was)
The Mum screamed at DH was ruining her kids holiday Angry.
Totally totally batshit