What does 'wear slippers in the house' mean to you?

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I've had the carpets professionally cleaned and bought everyone new slippers so they don't get dirty as quickly.

Would you think that means.

1. walk into porch, change into slippers and go into house
2. walk through porch, into house, into living room and put slippers on sitting on settee

There's a disagreement in my house atm

I'm not sure why you (and many other women) feel they can dictate to their husbands what they do in their own home. I always wear my shoes inside because I like to and that is my choice. I'd be very upset if my partner tried telling me I ''wasn't allowed to'

Presumably because the cleaning often falls to the woman.

Has there been any update from OP on who dealt with the dogshit that was stomped through teh house?

I also have a "no bare arses on the sofa" rule.

I'm so controlling

I also have a "no bare arses on the sofa" rule.

In my house too! But only because clothes averse DS2 kept sitting on the new (first new one we’ve ever had!) sofa bare arsed!

We have a new one and the previous one was old and from my mum and it was CREAM so the no bare arses rule has been in place for quite some time

I'm guessing that the shoe-removing families don't have cats or dogs?

It would be a bit pointless everyone removing shoes for reasons of hygiene only for a dog or cat to walk around with traces of poo on their paws.

We don't have a porch, and we don't really have a hall, just a space about 2'6" square inside the front door. There's no room for anyone to take their shoes off until they get to the living room, so it's lucky I'm not bothered really.

NothingOnTellyAgain I’m sure someone will come along and tell us we’re unreasonable for not wanting brown stripy sofas

YeTalkShiteHen - well quite

NothingOnTellyAgain

We have two dogs and remove our shoes. The dogs have their paws wiped.

I would think 1, or at the very least in the hall.

@Jackieyoulooknice - the nasty responses can only be because they are jealous maybe? Or embarrassed? Maybe because they know its dirty but are too lazy to stop walking round in their shoes. I don't really know, but the reactions are so over the top.

Do you not see the irony of your remarks? Your remarks are extremely insulting - dirty, lazy, embarrassed - hardly complimentary.

I wear shoes in my house. I wear shoes in other people's houses unless specifically asked not to. I have rarely been in a house where I have been asked to remove them. I have rarely had people remove their shoes in my house other than in a really relaxed, kicking back after a few drinks type of way.

I do not want other people's sweaty, bare, feet in my house so would prefer if people kept shoes on. If you took them off in my house, I would consider you a bit rude but would say nothing.

fil insists that he has to sit down to take his shoes off so In he walks sits on the sofa and takes them off and puts them down next to him, he doesn't walk anywhere in the house so may as well just leave them on it's pointless!!

I think he has a point though - some people can't take their shoes off standing up so if you want everyone to remove their shoes at the door then you should provide a place to sit at the door. Otherwise you have to accept that some people will need to walk to the nearest seat and if that is in your living room then so be it.

I need to sit down to take off any shoes that aren't slip on sandals/flip flops as I have a very unstable leg due to having broken both my ankle and knee (at seperate times!) that means i cant balance on one foot for more than a few seconds and I cant kneel on that knee at all. So if you want me to take off my boots in your entryway then you need to provide a chair or I physically can't

I’m pregnant and struggle to take my shoes off standing up, as I can’t bend in the middle!

I do think there’s also a bit of a difference between everyday family rules, and making allowances for less frequent occasions. If you hold a party at your house, you’d expect to have to clean the floors beforehand, and also after the party, so any dirt can be cleaned up then. If a W plumber visits, then of course he or she will need shoes on, but I’d expect to have to clean the floor afterwards anyway.

However, I would be pissed off at having to clean the floor four times a day (or nag for it to be cleaned up) because DH and children kept trailing muck into the house when there’s an easy workaround.

NRTFT but I loathe slippers and will not wear them for anyone. Much prefer barefoot.

Our plumber takes his shoes off and puts kind of clog things on, the chimney sweep brings shoe covers...

It's ingrained where we live. Parties at people's houses you take your shoes off, yes. People don't really dress up for things at home, including other people's homes though. Definitely not "outfits" requiring certain shoes... People dress up for restaurant meals or other festivities in non domestic settings...

People just do it automatically.

I'm glad, having grown up in a house where there were nasty stains on the carpet and dog and cat hairs all over everything, cats on the expensive hand made oak work surfaces, dogs hand fed from plates during meals and your shoes stuck to the kitchen floor...

I've taken my shoes off to enter a house since I was a child. For my parents it was a cleanliness thing, for me now as an adult with my own house it's just relaxing, a bit like taking a bra off when you're home. There's nothing like being barefoot, I don't even like my feet under the bed covers though so I get I might be a bit odd

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@blueskiesandforests actually I’ve been to a formal cocktail party at someone’s house where we all wore dresses and the men suits, and yet everyone was asked to remove their formal, outfit appropriate shoes upon arrival. We all then stood around in stocking feet and socks or barefoot in our dresses and suits. It was very odd and unwelcoming for such an occasion. These weren’t everyday ‘street’ shoes and everyone arrived by car.

I found it odd as I alway presume people who insist on shoes off work so hard to keep their carpets and tile pristine that they’d want to show them off at such a party.

It was bizarre, I don’t think anyone there found it welcoming or normal.

I do get the day to day shoes off rule in certain households is the preference - but these particular people have dogs indoors so presumably are walking around in whatever they’ve brought in anyway. V odd.

Camper I live abroad, gatherings in people's houses tend to be informal. Formal events requiring suits etc aren't held at home. Nobody here wears shoes in the house, and almost nobody has carpets at all. I prefer it this way. It's the opposite of the way I grew up and pleasanter.

My parents have gatherings a bit like the ones you describe, though not cocktail dresses... Suits and suit shoes. They also have carpets and too many pets.

There's nowt so queer as folk...

@blueskies - yep nowt so queer! I understand if it’s an informal gathering as you describe and formal events held elsewhere.

This was odd, why hold a fancy party and enforce a dress code and then make people stand around eating canapés in their socks? It’s my lasting memory of that night! That, and also one of their dogs getting upstairs and crapping in one of the bedrooms which we found ironically hilarious.