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Aibu to want to cry? What do I do

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xLost97572x · 14/08/2018 12:21

Backstory - So basically he has been pretty physically abusive in the past which I really don't want to get into because of it's brutality and triggering nature. The controlling parts of his character is only one example of his emotionally abusive nature and they were more prominent whilst I was with him. He kept me logged out of my accounts because he was so afraid of me developing feelings for anyone other than him and has recently forced me to discontinue friendships with a few of my male friends i'm really close with which I was vehemently opposed to and this resulted in him having an anger episode and suicide threats from his side for how i've apparently abandoned him.
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Now that I have blocked him, he's instigating people against me by creating lies that I can't object to because he has pictures of me and If I'm being honest he's quite adept at fabricating stories, therefore able to mask the actual truth and because of this 'm fucking TERRIFIED over what he could potentially do long-term to my other friendships and my self-esteem because he's not able to directly harm me, so the vengeance is stronger. He has links with two people who have wanted to destroy me in the past, so I imagine this is another one of their plans.

Thankfully he can't cause any physical harm to me as my location is unknown to him and he has no access to me. But my self-esteem has dipped dramatically because of all of this and he just won't fucking stop, it's making my alcohol withdrawal symptoms flare up again

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MatildaTheCat · 14/08/2018 12:25

If he is threatening to share these pictures then that’s a matter for the police. As is coercive control.

Have you contacted Womensaid for some support?

He sounds utterly dreadful. Please get the support you need to get him out of your life for good.

xLost97572x · 14/08/2018 12:29

He's very blunt about the police's involvement as though he has nothing to fear, my friend had threatened him yesterday. I haven't heard of Womensaid, no, what do they do?

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Quartz2208 · 14/08/2018 12:31

Go to the police - he is unafriad because he believes you will not go

xLost97572x · 14/08/2018 12:55

I found out he has previous charges for altercations with relatives when he was 15, very apathetic about it all...there's no way of telling what he could do when he comes out of prison

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Agentornika · 14/08/2018 12:57

Why do other people want to destroy you? What's he in prison for?

HollowTalk · 14/08/2018 13:01

Is this a man you've met in real life?

xLost97572x · 14/08/2018 13:01

They have a lot of resentment and personal hatred about myself, they perceive me as easy to control, fun to manipulate and abuse, etc etc, they're just sadistic *. He is in prison for common assault

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xLost97572x · 14/08/2018 13:06

Yes I've met him irl

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Agentornika · 14/08/2018 13:09

Is this your partner?

xLost97572x · 14/08/2018 14:03

Sorry I hadn't clarified, he's my ex partner

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