I’m getting divorced and I never got on with his family, and we’re always had problems as husband and wife. I’ve just started researching narcissism and I just wanted someone else’s opinion on this. I’ve always felt something was wrong, but couldn’t put my finger on it. I always got on brilliantly with my ex boyfriends family, and love them to bits. But this family is something else, so here it goes.
Ex husband:
Spends a lot of time getting ready when going out everyday ( doesn’t work of course) we’re talking long baths, perfume, trainers/shoes matching with the clothes. Then would come home and tell me about all the compliments he got from women, and how they tried to flirt with him. The more compliments he got, the more effort he made out of his appearance.
Never takes responsibility for anything, blames everyone else. The children break something in the house, it’s my fault. He’s late for an appointment, it’s someone else’s fault. Abuses people in public, one time he called for a cab, when he arrived the cab driver refused to take us, and said he could only take 4 people. He obviously forgot to mention he had three children when booking the cab, but anyway he called the cab driver a dickhead and other names for refusing to take us.
He lies a lot, and when I challenge him about something, he puts doubts in my head and I feel like I’m going crazy and I question myself after the argument.
Honestly you could give him an pink lady apple, and he would try and convince you that it’s actually an green apple.
After arguing with him I feel like a deflated balloon, exhausted and drained for energy. He calls me every name under the sun, and shouts/screams at me from the top of his lungs. He’s so loud and talks over me all the time, I can’t get a word in sometimes. He is also very controlling.
Couldn’t care less when I’ve just given birth to his child, would bring me home from hospital and go out with his mates. Also when I was ill, he didn’t care and never helped with the kids.
SIL:
She is the worst when it comes to lying, I don’t really speak to her now, because she has lied about me in the past.
She is nice and bubbly when you first meet her, but she will talk about you behind your back. She looks down on other people, and thinks she’s better than everyone else. If you invite her round for dinner, she will talk about how cheap the meat you served her is etc.
She loves talking about herself, and loves telling everyone she meets that she goes on holiday four times a year and she only eats organic. You’d think she’s rich, but no she’s on benefits and works cash in hand. She has maxed out all her credit cards that she got in her fathers name to fund her lifestyle, and is now in debt. She has also shoplifted in the past.
MIL:
She is also known for lying,( honestly it must be in their genes) even if you’ve caught her in a lie, she will hold onto it and never admit she’s wrong.
Also think she’s superior to everyone else, even though she’s on benefits and has never really worked much in her life. She wants the super rich lifestyle, but doesn’t want to do anything for it.
Has dated men in the past for their money. Would break up with them but still ask for money.
Used to do shoplifting with SIL for the money and the “thrill” ( her words)
Would always find faults in me, but her son is perfect.
Honestly she would pick on me for the smallest things, criticise and judge me all the time.