AIBU to ask did any of you read “The rules“ by Ellen Fein and act on it? Do it work?

[ConfusedWife1234]

I am actually married and I had never heard that book when I was boyfriend hunting... cannot share any experience with it.
But when I heard of it I thought it was interesting, just what some of my older relatives said (and I did not listen to them) .... sooo I ended up married without living by the rules.
However the authors seem to be so convinced of themselves and I wonder if any if you has experiences with following the rules.

*Did it work. Sorry for my crappy English.

Here is what I was talking about: en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Rules

I would say it was a crock of shit and very geared up to the US style of dating - eg you continue to date a number of people until someone proposes to you. The main and only aim of the book is to get women married off. From what I remember there was lots of game playing - you must not accept a date for Saturday if they call after Wednesday... is one that stands out. The only thing I found useful was the idea of leading your own life rather than sitting around waiting for a man to call. ( “ Don’t play hard to get - be hard to get). I think that was it in a nut shell but it was many years ago that I read it. It makes me feel a bit nauseous to re-visit.

Yes, exactly what you describe. That was one of the rules, never accept a date when he calls after Wedsnesday, be hard to get and they promised it would make a woman irresistible. I actually doubt it very much, but then: who knows. I never tried.

I actually also thought it was not very nice to play games with a man like this.

I’m doing it now (a loose version!) and yes it is working, because it filters out who is genuinely interested. Essentially it just means the woman doesn’t chase. I have been on both sides and this one is always better! I’m still keen and polite, I just don’t Chase

Never heard of it, but reading that Wikipedia link, these two sound like the kind of advice that cults and MLMs dish out to try and keep people toeing the line:

Do The Rules, Even when Your Friends and Parents Think It's Nuts
Don't Discuss The Rules with Your Therapist

Yes! I did it. It worked a treat. I really fancied a guy totally out of my league. I did the rules and it worked. He didn’t mess me around, and definitely believed me to be something to be won over. I passed my copy to a friend and she didn’t return it.

I didn’t tell anyone I was doing it, but a friend caught on. I had so many failed relationships and possibly because I was overkeen, stopped my life for a man, so it taught me to value myself more.

I just wonder what happens if the man did read something like the rules too. The man is not chasing the women then, the women is not chasing the men. How do the find each other?