To complain to DH about football?

[celebratorysusan]

After some different perspectives really along with a male perspective hopefully!

DH is completely obsessed with the football and now it is back on again I have realised how much it consumes our daily lives. It seems to be all he does at the weekend as well as when games are on in the week. If he can find a game he will be watching it, plus always on his phone looking at stuff.

I just sort of wish I could make more plans with him at weekends without me having to think he is going to say... well I can't because of this game, or i'm meeting mates to see this game, or I don't really want to do that because I'm at home in front of SKY!

Is this normal behaviour from your hubbies and any advice on how to make him slightly less football mad?

I know

Which is why I said 'a few hours a week'

The issue isn’t that it’s 90 minutes, or that he’s football daft though.

Clearly for him it isn’t just 90 minutes, it’s scores and updates and MOTD and any game he can find, to the detriment of his marriage!

Has he always been like this op?

I guess he has always been like this to an extent but I think during the World Cup I thought it was an exception and then we had some football free time which was lovely and now it’s back on I have just realised how fed up with it I am. Maybe it’s not got worse, I’ve just got more sick of it!

If he was like this before you got married you can't really complain. But it would annoy the hell out of me.

I love sport, particularly football and will watch any Premier League match that is on TV, plus important European games and interesting ones from other leagues.

Whenever my team is playing I like to go to the match, watch on TV (if it's on) or listen on the radio; I usually plan my life around this and would generally turn down invitations that clashed with a fixture. I write the dates and times of matches on the family calendar so that everyone knows that I'm not free at those times. I have DH and 2 teenage DS who aren't particularly bothered about football (and think I'm a bore) but they know that I love Huddersfield Town FC more than them so they put up with it

Football matches are generally on Sky Sports and BT Sports. Do you have both of these channels at home? If not, there is a good chance that your DH will need to go to a pub/friend's house to watch some of his Liverpool games.

I think that you need to check the Liverpool fixture list and TV schedule and get it written up on the calendar - those will be the matches that he HAS to watch. If you can see the forthcoming match schedule, then maybe it will be easier to organise social events.

Good luck!

Honestly I think it sounds problematic. While not the top thing on my list, I've seen from other family members how an obsession with soccer can dominate family life so when I began dating my husband, the fact that he doesn't devote huge portions of the week to spectator sport was a definite plus for me. I genuinely think it is selfish and unfair behaviour. I don't have any advice on how you could address it but I do think it worth addressing.

Best of luck