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Plannergirl9 · 13/08/2018 16:26

I have a gardener who comes a few times a month. He also does my neighbor's garden.

He was booked to come at 4pm to do some work in my garden. He hadn't shown up so I texted him. His response was that he is doing neighbors garden first.Hmm

It will be at least 5pm before he is done and he was meant to be doing 2 hours with me. I need to leave at 6pm (unfortunately I can't leave back garden gate unlocked so he will only be able to an hour).

I had to leave work early to get home for him and now I'm just sitting here. Aibu to go ask him way he is doing neighbors as he was booked for me and insist he comes back to make up the time, at a time that suits me eg after I finish work.

So not to drop feed. DH is away working this week so can't be home for him?

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Ohyesiam · 13/08/2018 16:27

Can’t you ask him now to do yours first?

NancyDonahue · 13/08/2018 16:30

Yanbu, especially as you left work early. I'd be fuming. He should have at least called you by 4pm and asked if 5pm was convenient, or arranged a different day if whatever he was doing in your neighbours garden was somehow very urgent - not sure what could be that urgent in the gardening world Hmm

LlamaPyjamas · 13/08/2018 16:31

Can you not leave him the key and get him to post it through your letterbox when he’s finished?

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Plannergirl9 · 13/08/2018 16:56

I spoke to him, who said he started my neighbor's garden first as they pay more (it's a bigger garden) and that i (he called me Missy) needed to learn to wait Hmm. He will only be another 20 minutes. All this was said while laughing.

I let him know he doesn't need to worry about how long he takes with neighbors garden as he won't be doing anything at mine. He asked if DH is home (as DH deals with him usually). I said don't worry about that and walked off.

Wtf, what is it with people. MissyConfused

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NancyDonahue · 13/08/2018 17:23

What a twat. Sure fire way to ensure he doesn't get your business or any recommendations from you. You're well rid.

Merryoldgoat · 13/08/2018 17:25

Fuck. That.

What a tool.

Losingthewill1 · 13/08/2018 17:27

Dismiss him and say you don’t require his services anymore. And call him little man

mydogishot · 13/08/2018 17:27

What a bellend.

Be proud you found your balls!
Do you know your neighbour?
I know I wouldn't be pleased to be having such a arrogant arse doing my garden I'd also tell them it was because they were paying so much more than me for the same work

Knittedfairies · 13/08/2018 17:29

Missy? I would have walked off too, and told him just what you did. (FYI I’m about 50 years off being a ‘Missy’.... maybe 40 in a prevailing wind, but the principle still stands)

OftenHangry · 13/08/2018 17:29

Tell him he doesn't need to hurry, because there is no job for him at yours anymore. Get a new gardener.

OftenHangry · 13/08/2018 17:30

Oh sorry! Haven't seen the update.
I would even go as far as asking neighbours if he speaks to them like this too

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Plannergirl9 · 13/08/2018 17:36

I spoke to DH, he doesn't speak to DH like that. Funnily enough. He gets a lot of Mate instead.

Probably another case of big man syndrome.

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AllRightNowInFactItsAGas · 13/08/2018 17:51

Wow! How rude is he? Wonder how he keeps his jobs with that attitude to his customers!

thedoctorwillseeyounow · 13/08/2018 18:08

Tell him you will no longer be needing his services and find a gardener who treats women as adult human beings.

Achafi · 13/08/2018 18:18

YANBU he sounds like a dick. You're well rid.

Seniorcitizen1 · 13/08/2018 18:23

Sack him. I have just done that with my gardener - supposed to come every 2 weeks to cut grass, weed, prine bushes etc. He was slipping to once every 3 weeks and then a month. There are many alternatives in our area. Tradesmen need to realise they are not the only ones offering that service - I have many competitors so work hard to keep my clients.

Seniorcitizen1 · 13/08/2018 18:23

Not just tradesmen but restaurant gairdressers - all service providers

Seeingadistance · 13/08/2018 18:26

Yeah, I'd be telling Sonny not to bother. Just find another gardener.

eightfacesofthemoon · 13/08/2018 18:27

Just get another gardener. Tell him you don’t need him next week.
What a bellend

Pumpkintopf · 13/08/2018 18:30

What a disrespectful arse! Well done for getting rid op.

MilkybarGrownup · 13/08/2018 19:01

Well done OP. Really well done. It's refreshing to see a mumsnetter standing up for herself doing what we would all tell you to do before we even need to bother saying it. Good on ya. Do NOT let your DH go back on what you said. Please tell me he wouldn't try that?

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Plannergirl9 · 14/08/2018 16:11

@MilkybarGrownup no DH won't. The gardener did text DH to ask what my problem was. DH told him that he was. That he was rude and disrespectful. The gardener didn't respond to his text.

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CrispsAndDip · 14/08/2018 16:27

I paid my gardener £50 to paint my fences about 2 months ago. He still hasn't finished the last part.

I was majorly stupid and paid him before he had finished the whole job (he had taken away our rubbish to the tip which was included int he price). He seemed like such a nice lad and had cut our grass several times.

I am dying to message him but hate the confrontation. Urgh I need to grow me a back bone

MissLadyM · 14/08/2018 17:07

What a wanker! I hate getting a 'missy'

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