MIL Sucking and kissing DD's fingers/hands

[Bond0O7]

Now I may be called precious but have to get it off my chest.
While MIL was holding DD, DD started grabbing at MIL's face I usually dont mine but MIL tends to get cold sores very often so I dont like DD touching her face. Anyway MIL then grabs DD's hands and starts kissing and sucking her fingers also right after MIL ate a roast lunch so DD then smelt like a roast baby from having her hands slobbered on. I didn't say anything because I didn't know what to say! But just took DD away and wiped her hand with Baby wipes. Don't know about anyone else but does anyone find this gross?

It's disgusting and dangerous!
Tell your husband to tell her to stop it. It's not her baby!

It used of be perfectly normal. It will do no harm unless she has an active infection. In fact, it helps develop immunity.

My DM sucks my DC fingers when they have yoghurt or ice cream on them. Make me feel sick and I've asked her not to do it 100x....she still does it

I had my DHs work colleague, stick her finger in my baby's mouth. I tried my best to move her finger away saying "you don't want baby saliva on your finger" but she ignored me! I stood there looking on gormless as my 4 month old sucked her knuckle.

So understand this and yes I too was caught unawares.

In hindsight I should have said "please can you remove your hand" as priority is baby's health.

So in your case, I'd have an answer planned such as " please don't suck her fingers, health visitor told us it's not good" so she backs off.

Must add I did speak to my Health Visitor who said it was a disgusting habit and to warn people not to do it.

Why are people so keen to swap dribble with babies? Next time bellow “STOP DRIBBLING ON HER MIL” as though you are Brian Blessed.

There was a story in the paper only yesterday about a baby dying from the virus - it can be extremely dangerous. I get coldsores and I am still careful around my daughter as I don't want to infect her and she is nearly nine.

It was defintely disgusting! Not sure what she was thinking when she was looking into my eyes and still doing it!
Next time I'll offer her something else to eat and tell her " I prefer you not to kiss her hands because you get cold sores at lot and your spitting on her hands which she then puts into her mouth"
Will try to say it as nicely as possible.

* a lot *you're

6 in 10 people in the UK have hsv1, the strain of herpes simplex that mainly causes 'cold sores'. Most of these people will be asymptomatic (and probably won't know they have it) so no one should be doing what your mother in law is doing. Even if they have had antibody testing (not available on NHS) to prove they don't have the virus, it could be acquired at any time and is dangerous for babies.

Additionally, symptomatic people do shed the virus more when symptoms are not present, so you are right to be vigilant. Do contact the herpes viruses association if you would like more information on virus transmission as many web sources are highly inaccurate or inadequate.

This aside, what she is doing is generally unhygienic so just be clear about your feelings and tell her to stop.

That is fucking vile. You are the mother and it is your job to stop this.

@superram Your husband sucked your daughter's hands? If that is as true as I've written it then you need to LEAVE

Sounds absolutely horrible. Tell her not to do that! Your concerns about cold sores are genuine ones but even if she has no cold sore at the moment, it's quite revolting.

I know! Wish I said something now!