. . . to tell my boss?

[UnsettledAndAnxious]

NC as it's work-related.

I'm on the management team of our department, which has about fifty staff. There are eight managers including me. One of the other managers is leaving and one of his team is applying for this role in the hope of being promoted.

I have MAJOR issues with this man, whom I'll call Steve, and if he were promoted to the management team I'd find it very difficult to work with him. I'll give you some examples of his behaviour:

1. I had to let someone go from my team due to their misconduct - Steve was good friends with this person and now holds a grudge, and therefore does things like introducing people to me with "Be careful of this one, she'll get you sacked" - said in a jokey way, but it happens a lot ("oooooooh don't do that, you'll get in trouble, that's misconduct according to Unsettled" etc.) I tend to ignore.

2. He's ex-military and for a while seemed to make a point of talking about people he's killed in my home country when I'm around. It happened about three times over a six-week period. It feels sinister and makes me feel massively uncomfortable but again, I ignore.

3. On a work night out, when most others had gone home, he exhibited incredibly poor judgement and did something morally wrong and incredibly seedy (given that he has a wife and kids). Only four junior members of staff know about this, as well as me.

4. I overheard him talking to his wife on the phone and it was horrendous. I'd be out the door if DH spoke to me like that. Lack of respect . . . borderline abusive. Just awful.

None of the management team are aware of the above as they haven't been present, and I haven't said anything. Our head honcho, who would conduct the interviews for the role, won't have any idea what Steve is like.

WIBU to flag my concerns to the HH? Or is it none of my business and Steve should be entitled to get the job based on experience/skills alone?

He is a prat - veterans who have had to kill people will very very rarely speak about it let alone brag. He will be lying about this.

#2 is completely contemptible. Yes, it's true that soldiers who've killed don't as a rule discuss it but even though it's most likely bullshit it's a dreadful thing to say, and worse still if he's saying it only to get at you. (I'm assuming he knows full well where you're from.) If I reported this and my boss weren't appalled then the boss would plummet in my estimation. And I agree that #3 & #4 are best left unmentioned at least for the moment. However you decide to handle this, the best of luck to you.