A friend of mine recently had quite obviously been having a mental health crises of some sort, played out on social media. This has included a post on the possibility of being pregnant and then a removal of all traces written off as a miscarriage. She has written poems etc to her child. Very sad, although I am in no position to judge, I am not 100% sure she was pregnant. She wouldn't take a test and when her period came she said it was a sign of miscarriage. I didn't argue with her, I just offered some kind words.
The fallout from the possible father has been played out over social media, with his messages calling her manipulative posted publicly by her. She has then gone on to describe a mugging, a sexual assault, a serious illness, and her contact with the police (all in 3 days).
Since this has played out over social media i have been aware, but haven't contacted her. Firstly because I was uncomfortable with the content since i don't know her thst well, and also because she hadn't messaged me.
She has now messages me calling me every name under the sun for not being there for her in her time of need. That she has been with me through thick and thin, and that was so disappointed. I apologised and said she could message me whenever and I would meet for a chat. She said this was better late than never and thenposted screenshots of our convo on social media. And messaged me saying she would meet up when i had read all her poems, statuses and video blogs (hours worth).
I did do, and she has now told me she cannot see me as she is going out with other friends. I said have a good time and left her to it.
I'm so confused and upset for a number of reasons: we are not that close (she is my old boss) and I feel like I've been made out as the bad guy who doesn't care about her- I do care, I just didn't think it was my place to intervene. The guy in question (potentibal father) told me that she told him she was pregnant when she was leaving her and that she had refused to do pg tests for three weeks before she said she had miscarried. I also have poor mental health myself, just out of a three year abusive relationship with ptsd - I can't even look after myself. But then I just feel so guilty- what if im being a bitch to her? If she wants my friendship should I just give it to her?
I know she has lost many friends over this and I feel sorry for her. So muddled over what to do