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to worry I will miss pregnancy?

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Yannia · 12/08/2018 16:33

I'm 28 weeks pregnant and it has dawned on me that I only have around 12 weeks of pregnancy left, if all goes to plan...
I'm really concerned that I will miss being pregnant. The thought of not feeling little kicks, or going for scans, or reaching new pregnancy milestones, etc etc, terrifies me!

I know my personality well and am fairly sure I'm going to struggle mentally with not being pregnant anymore. I have an anxiety disorder which makes it all that bit worse and just can't get this awful thought out of my head.

Is this a normal thing to be worried about or am I being utterly ridiculous?

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Yannia · 12/08/2018 17:43

Oh @Fang2468 I hope so! I'm already high risk for PND for a number of reasons..

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Nothisispatrick · 12/08/2018 17:44

I can’t wait for this to be over! I have a bowling ball using my bladder as a bouncy castle and my hips hurt like hell, I can’t walk more than 5 minutes at a time. 8 more weeks to go!

Fang2468 · 12/08/2018 17:45

No definitely not, wore off straight away after they were born, I think it was a combination of massive hormones and nerves about having the baby. I have a couple of children, my eldest is 8 now and no I’m not still pining for my bump!!

ToftheB · 12/08/2018 17:49

I thought I was going to miss being pregnant - I loved the first 7 months - but the last few weeks were so uncomfortable that I was desperate for it to be over by the end.
I hope you enjoy the rest of your pregnancy, and that you enjoy your baby even more.

Purplestorm83 · 12/08/2018 17:55

By the time you are close to having the baby you will be so uncomfortable that you will almost certainly not miss pregnancy after you have given birth.

theboud · 12/08/2018 18:04

The last few weeks will probably get you past this so make lots of notes, especially if you’re overdue! I remember sobbing to DH that I couldn’t do another day of pregnancy with DC 2 (who was 8 days overdue) for the last 3 days. I was genuinely overjoyed to go into labour!

Having said that the female body has evolved to have babies every few years so every once in a while I will miss being pregnant. It passes. All the best with your pregnancy.

WhatAnAbsolutePenis · 12/08/2018 18:08

I love being pregnant. I missed it sometimes!
I'm pregnant again, love it again.

crispysausagerolls · 12/08/2018 18:09

Wait until you get to 34 weeks - it goes from being a joyful experience to being physically very, very uncomfortable!

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Yannia · 12/08/2018 18:10

A completely random question then as I'm still very comfortable at 28 weeks... when does it go from lovely to 'get this thing out of me?' (Ish)

I actually long to feel at least a little bit that way (I know I'm nuts but it'll make pushing and grief of my bump a little easier in the long run!)

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Redgreencoverplant · 12/08/2018 18:12

I never hit that point yannia. I had a very small bump all the way so I never reached the uncomfortable stage. I think that may be part of my problem, I never reached the desperate for the pregnancy to be over stage.

JustWantCake · 12/08/2018 18:12

I miss it and I had a very tough pregnancy and even tougher labour. But I miss it immensely. Although I was very sick during pregnancy and suffered with SPD too I did enjoy the excitement and the kicks and everything else. Don't get me wrong, I love my DS and I enjoy him so much more now than when he was in me BUT I do still miss pregnancy and am aching for us to get lucky again.

Apologies as probably not a very helpful post seems you're worried about missing it. But what I can reassure you about is that you might not get PND just because you miss being pregnant. I was at high risk for PND (depression and psychosis history) and despite missing pregnancy I didn't suffer with PND.

Good luck with everything OP.

kaytee87 · 12/08/2018 18:13

I was very uncomfortable from about 32 weeks onwards.

Im looking forward to not getting up 4 times a night to pee

I hate to be one of those people but you'll still be up peeing 4 times a night as you'll need one every time the baby wakes for a feed Grin

JustWantCake · 12/08/2018 18:16

kaytee87 haha made me laugh that. Too true

KellyMarieTunstall2 · 12/08/2018 18:17

I loved being pregnant, I enjoyed every minute and was actually sad when it came to an end. I had my final baby 8 months ago, and I did actually cry on my last pregnant day, I was very excited to meet my baby but so sad to let her leave! Sounds crazy I know, but it is a very very special time, it certainly was for me, so I understand how you feel x

3luckystars · 12/08/2018 18:18

I know what you mean.

I surely will never be pregnant again and I felt so sad about that. Then one day I realised how lucky I was to ever have been pregnant and half the world (every single man for sure) never ever were pregnant at all.

So I know it’s sad but we are the lucky ones. Best wishes to you x

gamerwidow · 12/08/2018 18:19

I felt exactly like you and really enjoyed being pregnant then and was sad that it had to end but at about 38 weeks I had more than had enough. my ankles had swelled like balloons, I couldn’t sleep and was so uncomfortable. This got worse as I sailed past my due date until I was practically begging for the induction I’d said I would never have. Enjoy your pregnancy but when it comes to an end you’ll be ready for it!

Liverbird77 · 12/08/2018 18:21

I am 20 weeks and I cannot wait to not be pregnant anymore (obviously I want my little one to be healthy etc). I think we will start trying for second one right away though, so if all goes well I will be pregnant for the foreseeable future!!

AcrossthePond55 · 12/08/2018 18:31

I'll start this by saying I'm postmenopausal. I had been advised after DS2 not to have more for health reasons.

Will you 'miss' being pregnant? For awhile, sure. For me it was about 5 years. It's a wonderful experience. Even at my age I can say that I definitely have the odd 'longing' to experience baby kicks, growing belly, etc. But it's the same 'longing' as I have for 'that wonderful summer when I was 8'. I wouldn't really want to go back there again and I realize that the memories are so tinged with the rosy glow of nostalgia. I think pretty much every woman experiences that (unless pregnancy was a negative for them).

But the following years of motherhood and watching my sons grow far overshadowed that longing. Especially when they started school and became more independent.

Mummadeeze · 12/08/2018 18:36

I am genuinely shocked by this thread. I absolutely hated being pregnant and saw it as a horrible means to an end. I felt so ill and run down every day, and like I wished I could turn back time and change my mind! Having my daughter was the best thing I have ever done, so I don’t regret it obviously but the thought of another pregnancy would fill me with dread! I didn’t realise anyone enjoyed being pregnant. Anyway, am sure you will love being a Mum as much as being pregnant, well more than being pregnant really, so try not to worry.

crispysausagerolls · 12/08/2018 20:01

I hate to be one of those people but you'll still be up peeing 4 times a night as you'll need one every time the baby wakes for a feed

So glad it’s not just me!! 🙈😂

Clandestino · 12/08/2018 20:05

Realistically speaking it's hard to stretch it unless you want the baby come out and walk straight into the primary. You will definitely miss the times when it was kicking only your ribs and not your legs when you are tryyto carry it out of the shop in the middle of a toddler tantrum.

Clandestino · 12/08/2018 20:06

trying to carry it out

kaytee87 · 12/08/2018 20:56

So glad it’s not just me!! 🙈

My ds is 2 now and barely wakes anymore, I still get up for a pee most nights 😂

Girlwiththearabstrap · 12/08/2018 20:56

I know it's easier said than done but try to focus on the next stage and how exciting it'll be to meet your baby and get to know them.

Pregnancy was very much a means to an end both times for me. I don't miss it at all and I was sickness and symptom free (apart from pre eclampsia at the end!) I just found the whole thing quite tedious tbh. Constant midwife appointments, having to make small talk about pregnancy/baby stuff ALL the time at work etc, not fitting into clothes, having to stop after one delicious glass of wine... Yes, it was nice feeling the movements but it's much more exciting actually having the baby in your arms!

wheezing · 12/08/2018 21:03

Oh I loved being pregnant. The last few weeks especially, I just remember thinking that this was the happiest I’d ever been.

Having a baby is different. Way better in many ways but also for me more stressful and tiring and overwhelming (obviously, it’s different for everyone - some have horrendous pregnancies and easy babies, I had the opposite).

I’d love to get pregnant again, I keep having 1st trimester MCs at the moment so who knows, but it’s to have another baby/child not to be pregnant even though it was lovely. Ultimately, you’re just growing the baby.. pregnancy in itself isn’t the end goal.

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