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Furious at MIL for her manipulative lying.

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LukeSkywalkerBoots · 12/08/2018 16:33

MIL is a headcase nightmare. She picks ridiculous fights and legal battles with her neighbours/ companies/ everyone she knows and is a nasty resentful person who cannot get on with anybody. Dh and I know she is trouble so we keep her at arms length, but she won’t accept it and makes regular attempts to try and elbow her way in anyway.

Today she had a visit here and ranted on as usual about how the whole world is against her and her various silly fights with people, and she was most perturbed when after being here for a few hours and having lunch she found she’d have to leave as dh was going to work and me and dc were visiting an elderly relative.

While dh was driving her home she said to him how she wants to see us for a longer visit, and then along the same lines that my mother had texted her and said how awful it is that things have broken down with me (I went NC because of historic physical and verbal abuse in my childhood, it’s been an incredibly painful time). This is absolute bollocks. My mum and her have never had each other’s numbers. They met once at our wedding and never again and certainly barely spoke then. Besides even if they did exchange numbers (which I know they didn’t) this alleged text happened ‘a long time ago’ and she only found out me and my mum weren’t talking via my dh recently.

She said to him how sad it is for my mum and he told her that she has no idea what she is talking about and she shut up.

I’m absolutely fuming that she lied and made this shit up and bought my painful family life up for her own perceived manipulative gain.

I feel like I never want to see the evil witch again. Aibu?

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FlyByNightStar · 12/08/2018 16:35

God no, she sounds awful. You don't need that in your life.

Aprilshowersinaugust · 12/08/2018 16:36

Yabu to even consider seeing her again. ..
I have been nc with mil for 3 and a half glorious years!!
Another bitch who spouted vicious lies.
Well rid.. And you will be too!!
Grin

LukeSkywalkerBoots · 12/08/2018 19:22

If it was up to me I would go NC but she’s not my mother sadly. Dh takes the path of least resistance so he sees her every two months through gritted teeth and tries to ignore her constant incessant emails. She is dreadful.

When his dad died suddenly and dh was the sole beneficiary of the will she kept asking him if she could have lumps of it. And no she hadn’t even been married to his dad for over 25 years.

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SpectacularAardvark · 12/08/2018 19:45

Sympathy OP. Toxic family is so hard and going no contact isn't always that easy, as you say, it's not your call. My DH only keeps his DM in our lives because he feels guilty as she has no one else but I know we both felt secretly thrilled when she announced a heart problem and that's so horrible and sad.

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