so tell me if I over reacted....feeling so upset today.
In a nut shell the history - A year ago after becoming mentally unwell I decided to withdraw a bit from life to concentrate on getting fit and well so I stopped seeing friends as often etc - They knew I was ill but not one of them rang me or messaged me to see if I was Ok. I didn't hear from any of them at all - I was hurt but pulled myself together and decided to move away and start afresh which is what I have done to great success and life is on the up again for me.
Yesterday was my birthday and a message popped up from the friend I have known the longest - it was a bizarre passive aggressive message saying " I know you don't want anything to do with me but I suppose I should wish you happy birthday as I've known you for so long"....I replied that as I hadn't heard from her in ages I presumed she didn't want to stay in contact but I thanked her for her birthday wishes and added a X to the message.
I was floored by what came back - it was just vile - Im a hypocrite and how do you think she feels seeing me on facebook with people she knows I don't like???? I can only presume that she means my SIL who I have a checkered past with but who has been amazing through my illness.
It was line after line of personal attack. I didn't bite but simply replied how spiteful and nasty it was to send such an unpleasant message especially on my birthday.
The reply I got left me shaking with rage.
" By the tone of your response I will acknowledge that you are indeed still suffering from mental health issues and I hope you are getting the help you clearly need !! " Im afraid I completely and utterly lost it. Im not ashamed of being unwell - I have had some awful life events happen to me and I have always battled on - but her patronising sneering tone just pushed my buttons.
I told her she was a patronising cow (and a bit stronger) and that to say something like that when I have worked so hard to get well was a really low blow. I said that I thought she was better than that and to do one and never contact me again.
I then got a " You have read that all wrong - I didn't mean to sound patronising blah blah blah....Im so pleased you are feeling better."She back tracked like mad but no apology.
Then I get her daughter sending me " How could you do this to my mother - shes hysterical and we need the doctor to calm her down."
Im done and have blocked all forms of contact from them all.I have to say I felt elated after I fired back as I have always been the "nice" one and haven't really stood for myself before but to say that I am clearly still in need of help when I feel so great I felt was awful.
So today - I do feel a bit guilty - I know I dont want anything to do with her again- I can never forgive her- but Im worried I went over the top?Would you have been fuming? To give it some context the second message was absolutely shocking and very spiteful.
Thanks for reading.