To just go knock the door

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My younger brother (21) has had some mh issues the last year he's struggled but now is starting to get back on track.

He's currently living with his girlfriend (18) she has a host of mh issues and her mother is an ex heroin addict who still uses weed and alcohol the house is very toxic and I have been waiting on him to see he needs to leave for himself and also the gf as they fight a lot it's not good for either of them.

Last night I spoke to him he told me he was ready to leave but had to find the courage to tell her (she is jealous and possesive if he leaves she will treaten to harm herself) he then txt me 1.30 asking if I was up then another msg saying to call him AS SOON AS i was up. I've not been able to contact him since and I am very worried. She has broken 3 of his phones so he couldn't contact people before his phone is still ringing but no answer.

AIBU to go up and see what is going on? I don't want to be dramatic turning up but I'm worried sick about both of them neither are all that stable.

just go.

good luck

I would go ASAP. Hope everything is ok op x

I'd go up to in that situation.

yep go knock.

Go but don’t go alone - make sure someone is with you incase things get tricky

I would definitely go and check. It already sounds like a dramatic situation.

I'd definitely go, good luck

maybe dress it up as picking up db to visit elderly relative for their birthday... long arranged. or similar.

What blue said I think is a good idea!

Hope all is ok OP

Finally managed to get a hold of him unfortunatly they have sorted things out. I got an earful from her sister about trying to split them up and he's her whole life so I'm sure there has been some emotional blackmail as usual but next time my phone will be on loud and I'll get there.

It's such a scary abusive relationship I obviously don't know her side but both of them really need help. It's a mess

I feel for you. A person I knew slightly had a son who was in a very abusive relationship. He was formally warned at work because of his appearance (turning up to work more than once with black eyes etc) that he thought he got by fighting. She gave the bruises to him. She cleared him out financially.

His parents stuck close to him and kept the door open for him. Eventually _ he broke away after a long time. He joined the forces to get far enough away.