What am I missing?

[mentaloverload]

We’re moving. DH won’t do a thing. Expects me to be both ends, new house and old house with a toddler. I won’t, If has to help or I have told him I’ll just go to a hotel.

He hasn’t packed anything or booked removal men. I have thrown out most of my and LOs clothes to buy new as we needed new stuff anyway. I am down to one bag and one set of drawers. Bag has makeup, toiletries. I don’t have anything else, I mean a house full of stuff, ornaments, things. If it wasn’t for LO’s toys I could walk out with everything I owned.

Am I missing out in life? I wear the same things everyday and can survive with one suitcase. What am I missing?

He hasn’t even booked a removal van because he says I have to do it but won’t tell me which days he can get off work.

We’re in a rented place, have to leave

I'm not sure what sort of advice you are after op? Are you saying want to walk out on DH ?

Don't pack your DH.

Pack your stuff, and your LO's stuff, load it in to the removal van and leave.

Move out and leave his stuff there?

You need a DP removal service OP. This is unbelievably horrid and selfish. Is his behaviour here reflective of your whole relationship?

Honestly OP, your stuffs already packed, take it, go to family and leave him behind. I can't imagine someone who behaves like this in these circumstances is a nice person the rest of the time.

I'm sorry you've found yourself in this position. DP is a prick.

There is furniture to go in new flat, he expects me to get that moved come back 100 miles and pack and move furniture to new place but too much done of it in store but I can’t be in three places at once with s toddler

Leave him behind. Job done.

I mean furniture that has to be moved out of new flat

I meant leave him behind permanently

On a serious note though, why isn’t he doing his bit? You’ve to do all the packing, the organising, both houses and the childcare while he does what?

How does he even begin to justify it?

WTF is his issue? I'd seriously be reconsidering whether or not I want him to move with me to the next place. He's being incredibly obstructive and selfish.

Seriously - what are you getting out of this relationship?!

Why are you even thinking of moving with him?

So me and my husband have moved around the country a lot (mainly for his work) and we are also Renters.

We have a system of me booking removal men/viewing the new place/hiring a van for us to move our essentials and I can elk him when he is taking time off to help.
He drives the van/does most of the heavy lifting of our essential items and helps me when I need it.

We don't expect this to change when our little one arrives early next year either. His job is mentally stressful so it helps when I tell him what needs done rather than him guessing.

As for the clothes thing. I wear mostly the same stuff with a few pieces that I wear to dress up and feel pretty. If I want new clothes I just go get them. Maybe try buying a few extra pieces a month until you have an amount you are happy with.
That's what I did and now I'd be lucky to fit all my clothes in 4 XL suitcases.

Why are you taking him with you? Take what you need and want and he isn’t included.

Maybe try buying a few extra pieces a month until you have an amount you are happy with.

Thank you mil. I think I got carried away with complaining. I need to know why I have nothing.

He says he will help, but he’s not doing anything