AIBU to ask how often is the norm for having sex?

[TheWonderfulCat]

DH and I both work shift work doing 14 hours and his job has been particularly grueling. My job isn't so bad but I'm definitely tired when I get home.

We haven't DTD in about a little over a week. Is that normal? One of his friends says he needs to get his testosterone checked

We otherwise have a happy marriage, just currently trying to work as much as possible to get a new house

I only mentioned my age because people often expect that normal at my age is every day and if you go more than a week then there must be something wrong - which I think is quite damaging

I agree Lemonys. DH is 30 and I'm 26 and people still assume were at it every day haha

Well, glad we are "normal" if you can even use that word. I wasnt very impressed with the friend, he isnt a doctor and wouldn't know shit

I don't know what the average is across populations, but if I wanted more sex I would ask my partner what he thought about it. I think infrequent sex can be fine as long as it works well when it does happen.

Been with my partner for 4 years, he's 26 I'm 36. Every other day is about normal for us although we can have weeks with little and weeks with lots. Depends what's going on in our lives etc. I think once a week is fine considering you are both tired.

Once or twice a week is normal for us, circumstances allowing, but I'm really not up for it much since being pregnant. I know it sends some women into a lust fuelled frenzy, but not me especially now I can feel the baby moving and kicking

We can go for a couple of weeks without or be at it like rabbits several times a day. Depends how tired / stressed / busy etc we are. There's no normal. A week is not that long.

I don't think the average amount is relevant, since it depends on so many factors.

However, what is REALLY important is that overall yourself and partner as happy with the frequency (of course there will be some variation from time to time), and the type of sex.

If I could give advice to people serious about starting a longer term relationship it would be to discuss that topic as a priority (it's up there with kids, finance and care for each other) and get on the same page. Otherwise if you are mismatched then you can be sure of problems ... But of course we're not like that when younger :(

I'm 50, away one week per month from DH for work, teenage kids ... so it's about 3 per week. Sometimes more, sometimes less.