To not want sex on demand especially in these circumstances

[easylover]

We're in a caravan in Cornwall with 4 teenagers. It's not been the greatest of holidays 4 of us so far have had a stomach bug, I've been stung by a wasp too! The caravan stinks cos of all the soiling and one toilet between us all. My stomach is still funny I'm burping etc I don't feel very sexy, one child is in bed recovering. Dp thinks by sending the others out to the arcade I can just quickly bend over as he's randy and having a shit holiday. I don't want to, atm I can't think of anything worse, but he's being really funny with me now. Aibu or should I just let him do it to improve his holiday. I just want to go home!

The only way I'd bend over for him would be to shart on the prick...literally!

Omg! Im having a shit holiday so need my sick wife to provide recompense 😂 AND moaning when you don’t feel sexy whilst sat on loo/vomiting. He’s a bloody catch!! You have my sympathy. You need to show him this thread, as male brains can be completely focused and this may reset it !

Right while the kids are in the arcade get DH to get off his arse, go to the sluice and empty the toilet, then get some bleach and clean it- that will keep him occupied and cool his jets!

Well he's apologised now but bloody prick! Yeh we are going home tomorrow this holiday has been a disaster from the beginning

How sexy and romantic. What an arse.

The words fuck and off spring to mind. Of course YANBU.

Have a safe journey home tomorrow.

What is his logic for this being in any way a reasonable request?!

Bottle of bleach and a huge packet of anti-bac wipes will improve his holiday!

I think I'm feeling rather nauseous after reading that.

@magicstar1

The only way I'd bend over for him would be to shart on the prick...literally!

Ba ha ha. Made me LOL that did.

OP, of COURSE YANBU. Your DP is a nob.

Sex should take place when two people are feeling sexy and want to have sex with each other. He is treating you like an object.

D&V bug in a caravan does not equal sexy time. How can he not know this?

Don't ever screw him just to stop him sulking. It's horrible. I did it for years. The pressure got worse. He won't respect you. You'll resent him. It'll fester and wreck your marriage. It's called coercion. It's not healthy.

Nope, you wait until you both want it like crazy and have a fantastic time when you feel comfortable and clean (maybe dirty minds!)

Great sex once is worth 100 lots of mediocre moments (imo)

Get yourself home, put the holiday down to a bad experience, and look forward to a far better one in your own bedroom!

*CaoNiMa

"all the soiling" 😱*

In bed next to DP who's had a tooth out and is very sensative but finally got to sleep and I just did a bug explode laugh at that comment

I'd either puke or shit on him just to prove the point. Twat.

That specialist stuff needs a specialist location!

FWIW, I tend to agree. The whole setting sounds so unromantic and bleak, sex sounds like a chore. But I’ve always been interested in the collective view on sex and if it being a chore, not to do it. Is is ever acceptable to just do it?

I am so glad that I am not the only one who feels you shouldn’t have to grin and bear it when it comes to sex "meeting my parents", "changing my car tyre", "going to the shops with me", "putting the shelf up", "mowing the lawn".

Sometimes we do stuff because our partners want us to, for various legitimate reasons. Family harmony, connection, to be seen to be busy round the home...whatever.

Yes people sometimes have sex when they don’t enormously feel like it because it’s an important part of a relationship... but this was not an ‘not sure I’m in the mood’ scenario, it’s sharing one room with 4 teenagers, an upset tummy and the lingering miasma of the mingled faeces of your entire family!!

YANBU

A holiday in a caravan with 3/4 teenagers sounds unpleasant though.

Too cramped and poor basic facilities.

I’m calling bull-SHIT on this thread

Tell him to get the bleach out and clean the loo and then ask him how randy he’s feeling....

You are certainly not being unreasonable! He is totally insensitive. You're a person, not a machine besides which you're unwell. Tell him straight.

I do hope you feel better soon.

Are you certain he’s not been hiding a secret fetish in the poo dept?

That’s the only explanation for not acting like a normal (concerned) human. I’d be asking him quite seriously. Well, I’d put a serious face on.

Godamn. All you want to do when you’ve had a violent tummy bug is stay perfectly still, and/or nap. Rumpy pumpy is definitely not on the menu. There is no menu!