To think life barely changes for new dads

[watsmyname]

Jus wondering if it's only in my life where my dh is only slightly different after the arrival of our 2 children. For example my husband is surprised if my son wants to go to the toilet with him or pick wats on tv 😏

Don't know if it's only your life but it's not a description of mine.

No, but then DP actually parents.

Errrm it sounds like your OH needs a kick up the backside my love. If his life hasn’t changed he can’t be doing equal parenting.

Ok obvs the lighthearted tone of my op wasn't very clear 🙈 it's true I do the lions share of the parenting but my dh is currently bringing in the income. I jus meant the little things that the lo's always head to mummy for

I mite think twice about posting in future tho

I think DPs life has changed massively! Only probably not as much as mine as I’m currently on Mat Leave and he still goes to work every day. I’ve no doubt it’ll even up when I return to work in 3mths.

Every single second of his spare time is dedicated to us as a family. (Well I think he’s been out maybe a handful of times in the past year). He’s obviously not perfect but I can’t fault him as a father.

If it takes until pottytraining kicks in for your husband's life to change just a little, I don't think it's a poo-faced response to suggest he's a bit light in the parenting stakes...

My husband was a stay at home dad with our son but the boy still followed me to the toilet whenever I was home and asked me all the annoying questions

DP and I both work full time. I would definitely say that both our lives have changed drastically. DS comes to both of us for everything - cuddles, following to the loo, food, playtime, reading, etc

If your DHs life hasn't changed much, I would think it's because he's not actually allowing it to change, or you both need to work on him having more hands on time with the kids