Aibu to ask about hen party invite?

[usernamechangeduckling]

Ive been invited to a hen party. The bride to be has been invited to lots of family events previously, including quite a few hosted by my mum - the groom’s aunt - 18th and 21st birthdays, Christmas etc.
They always seem on pretty good terms.
My sister and my grandma and i have all been invited to a family meal style of hen do - not the actual drinking one as that took place a fortnight ago.
Mum is gutted that she seems to be the only member of our family (of the women, anyway) not invited, and has asked my sister and I not to go, out of solidarity. Mum has been known to be melodramatic and a bit paranoid that others dont like her in the past, but on this occasion i can see where she;s coming from.

Aibu to check, very casually, with the bride that my mum is not invited?

She would likely have been invited anyway @caboose she has always been friendly and cheerful at all family events.

Mum is the groom’s aunt on his dad’s side, they have not had any fallings out or anything.

Thank you to those who have said they would not have asked fiancés’ aunts to hen do’s, that is a helpful perspective to have. The thing is that this is less of a hen do, but more of a family meal - afaik her friends will not be there, but relatives will.
Thank you @rollonoctober - I have asked DGM to text groom (her grandson). Brill idea!

It would never occur to me to invite such a distant relative to a hen do, but a family meal perhaps. Good luck sorting it all out.

Why are you involving the DGM and the groom!!!? That is totally blowing it out of proportion. It is for the bridge to decide not the groom. And involving the DGM now will just upset her possibly too. Are you trying to get her to boycott it too.

If your mother is such a drama queen no wonder she is not invited.

Don't be surprised if you're not all uninvited from the wedding.

@ reservoir Why is it only the bride gets to decide
Good idea about granny messaging groom.
I wouldn’t go if mum isn’t invited.

@TheConstantMoaner I would imagine because this is the bride's hen do, not anything to do with the groom

I get that no one i entitled to be invited but do other posters not think it's odd that the children and the grandparent are invited but not the mum. Seems odd and contrived to me. I would just asked if it was me but I really don't think I would go as it sounds a bit spiteful IMO.

I don't understand why you don't just Text the Bride yourself OP

Because it's the bride's do.

The groom gets to decide who he has at his stag do.

It's not rocket science.

Well clearly something’s gone wrong if Mums been excluded and nobody knows why 😏

But it isn't the bride's mum or the groom's mum but an aunt on the groom's side.

Well it's been and gone now, @usernamechangeduckling did you go in the end up and did anyone ask the bride why she excluded your Mum?

Ask!

If your mum is not invited I would text the bride to say you can't come as you will be with your mum.

What happened in the end....?

Yes, just ring the bride to be (don't text) and ask, and say your mum would be delighted to go along with you and grandma.