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To not be able to tell the age of anyone?

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bobstersmum · 10/08/2018 19:57

I really honestly cannot tell how old anyone is anymore. Is there a way to help? I find that even teenage girls look so much older these days and I have no idea if they're 16 or late 20's! Young men that have beards confuse me too as they look older.

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bobstersmum · 11/08/2018 20:25

Dave, she's either having you on mate or she's totally stupid. You might look to be in your forties, at a push, which is a massive compliment, but no way any 63 year old looks in their mid 20s. Sorry, I'm not being mean.

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Emilizz34 · 11/08/2018 21:39

Yes it can be hard to tell people’s ages nowadays . Depending on health status , weight , smoking etc some people can look a lot older than they actually are .
I’m 53 and I don’t look it . My siblings are the same . I went to a dermatologist recently to ask about Botox as everyone I know is getting it . He refused to give it to me as I don’t have any lines . It’s weird as my 20 year old dd has two frown lines between her eyebrows from studying

RoseTree7 · 11/08/2018 23:28

I can't be the only one who finds @celebritydiscodave's posts extremely odd. Confused

@Emilizz34

Your post makes no sense.

If you supposedly 'look younger than 53' like you claim, and more importantly 'have no lines on your face whatsoever,' then why on EARTH would you be going to get botox? Confused

Makes no sense. Saying you went 'because everyone else is getting it' is hogwash. You wouldn't get it if you didn't need it. So your post doesn't add up. I also find it VERY hard to believe anyone would refuse to give you botox anyway, as they wouldn't turn down custom and profit.

As I said, most people look their age, NO-ONE looks more than 7-10 years younger, and anyone who thinks they do is deluded, (or has been told they do by someone who needs their eyes testing!)

YippeeKayakOtherBuckets · 11/08/2018 23:32

I keep thinking people I meet (like other parents at school) are much older than me and being really weirded out that they are actually my age or younger. I’ve become older than my mental image of myself.

I think everyone else must be grown upper than I am Grin.

celebritydiscodave · 12/08/2018 01:02

Your obsession is with how old you look, and how long you have been alive, but actual young people, teenagers, are more focused on how old one actually is, how old they look be a single factor. They are substantially influenced by levels of vitality, physical performance, zest for life, even possible how comfortable they feel around them. Those of us that are biologically up to twenty or more years younger than our years apparently number only a fraction of one percent. We are not all average, and physical world records through ones sixties are not even recognized as being possible by average folk. Ill come across as entirely more than merely odd, but thats all for the good at my end. I am attempting a Nuffield Health level world record only this week, for one hour volume punching. Nobody that has aged to anywhere near sixty years can produce all ages all time world records, trust me. As for lines on your face, they are not a marker for age, It is skin elasticity, its health and youthful glow that you should be talking about. Frown and squint and youll have lines to correspond! Likewise, I find your posts most odd too.

Greenyogagirl · 12/08/2018 01:07

I was somewhere the other day and there was a group of girls who must have been 11 at the most wearing bandage dresses, thick make up, swearing and smoking. They were the same height as my 8 year old and were shaped like sticks so I assume they weren’t all tiny underveloped 20 something’s.
Then a woman claimed everyone mistook her for 16 and she was id’d all the time, she uploaded a photo and asked people to guess how old and most said late 40s.
I’m often mistaken for a teenager but not in a ‘don’t I look young!’ way, more in a messy, scruffy, no make up, short arse with freckles kind of way unfortunately.

Silverjellybean71 · 12/08/2018 01:13

Is Dave really Eammon Holmes??

celebritydiscodave · 12/08/2018 01:31

Bobs, this girl, Riannia, is nt even aware of the girl that keeps insisting that I must be twenty five, shes just fifteen, Riannia almost eighteen, and as I ve eluded to, her thinking that Im twenty five is not likely her thinking that I look twenty five. They can be elaborate in how they formulate their perception for a persons age. I have a big teenage following, not celebrity big, obviously, but I seem to have far more admirers in their teens than these teens themselves typically do, and they have a lot. My late mother was also very popular with young people, my father too, my mother having been nearly two and a half decades his junior. They were both of them very young for their years. We can certainly have a biological age younger than how old we look, perhaps much younger, for even if the passage of time does nt age us it will still most certainly mark us, and as consequence to repetition. Incidentally, graying hair.is not an actual biological marker for age. Beyond the microscope markers are such as, muscle percentage, resting pulse, vitality and recovery, blood pressure, metabolic rate, CO2 max, etc. How old we look can be a very rough indicator to biological age, gray hair and balding aside. Im not balding incidentally.

celebritydiscodave · 12/08/2018 01:40

My hobby, one of them, is in producing new social philosophical sentiments, come affirmations of truth.. I have hundreds of these what are hopefully novel sentiments on m,y Facebook, if interested - Kates David. Look for three girls, shoulders up, posing for the camera at a nightclub, that`s my page.

ChocAuVin · 12/08/2018 02:08

Does the light of the backlit screens draw the crazies out at night like moths? Smile

celebritydiscodave · 12/08/2018 10:26

Volume Oxygen max is one of the more significant markers, and rate of recovery, thats massive, susceptibility to injury is written into this, bone density of course, and another massive one, immune response. Under the microscope they compare cells with those of younger/older ones, and they look at the length of its tail - Up to twenty years longer/shorter! I believe that much needless ageing is as consequence to social indoctrination, and this has caused a segregation, other than merely the getting from A to B, of so called young people with so called middle aged, and older, people. In my view it is not even natural to think of ourselves as being older with the passage of time, and most certainly that is an ageing mindset. At sixty, ideally, one should still "KNOW" that one is of twenty years, and in contention still with the best in the world. I have teenage friends, thats odd/different, but remember this, I did not befriend any single one of them. In my opinion young people, socially, are drawn by youth, a person exceptionally young for their years hints at a possibility for their extended youth too. One girl, eighteen, even asked me out a short while back, perhaps she thinks Im immortal?? It would nt have been the worst thing in the world Had I of accepted , at least nineteen in every twenty relationships fail anyway, and I could have kept reminding her, that actually, I`m not immortal. There exists far too much both forward and reverse age prejudice, us thinking that we are somehow better than young people, and young people being obliged into reacting to this. With the right mindset, and the knowledge to back it up, they can all make a significant address to their otherwise rate of demise. They befriend me and in return I try to benefit them.

Emilizz34 · 12/08/2018 10:40

@RoseTree7 , it really doesn’t bother me whether you believe me or not. I was just stating the fact that I don’t have any lines on my face . I’d like to keep it that way hence the reason that I went to see a dermatologist . Many people in their 30s receive Botox as a preventative measure so that’s what I was asking about . The guy I went to see is obviously very ethical as he won’t give it unless you need it .
I spent my entire 20’s having to produce id to get into clubs as I still looked about 12. Not a good thing at that age but I’m not complaining now . Interestingly enough, I don’t have any menopausal symptoms either so no one seems to have told my body that it’s almost 54 Grin

confusedmummy76 · 12/08/2018 11:10

I agree extremely difficult to guess ages these days

celebritydiscodave · 12/08/2018 11:11

You are likely a member of that one percent, or less, of the populous that scarcely ages. At fifty four I doubt you have aged much beyond thirty five.

celebritydiscodave · 12/08/2018 11:13

It also sounds as though you have protected your skin from the sun through your teens, thats exceptional too, I definitely did nt do that, I was deliberately trying to burn it!!.

liz70 · 12/08/2018 11:25

"A lot of girls look older than their age because of makeup skills. If they took their makeup off you would be able to tell I think"

This. Imagine the same 16 year old girls without a scrap of make up, undyed hair back in pony tail or plait, dressed in school uniform consisting of sweater, blouse, tie, below knee skirt, knee length socks and sensible low heel brown shoes can you tell I'm talking about my own uniform here.

They would look much, much younger.

celebritydiscodave · 12/08/2018 12:49

They look exactly the same age to me, its an excuse older men use, those eighteen and nineteen years old, early twenties, that have relationships with them. They just look different. I never seem to guess their ages wrong, but they seem to half expect me to. I was cycling to Cornwall and back solo at sixteen, 700 miles, working on a farm alternately with surfing. Do nt let young people age you in any way.

Camomila · 12/08/2018 12:55

I'm rubbish too, the oldest people I IDed when I worked at coop were mid 30s.

I think I have mild face blindness though as sometimes I dont even recognise DM in the street till she's right next to me.

I think clothes make a lot of difference to how old people look...when I go to uni (jeans, tshirt, rucksack, no make up) I look a good 5/10 years younger than I do in work clothes.
(As in I'm 30, you'd believe me if I said I was 25 at uni but equally you'd believe me if I said I was 35 in a work dress and heels)

LisaSimpsonsbff · 12/08/2018 13:00

Sorry, can someone just reassure me because I'm not sure if I'm losing it through sleep deprivation - this thread is batshit, right?!

Greenyogagirl · 12/08/2018 14:00

lisasimpsonbff think it’s dave that’s batshit rather than the entire thread

celebritydiscodave · 12/08/2018 18:18

Its the entire thread except me, Im doing all I can to move it away from merely what age you think people might think you are when you are wearing this and that. Your exclusive conversation is top yourself boring. I have introduced actual science, trust me, that is infinitely more interesting than an exclusive conversation going absolutely nowhere. I could n`t even be bothered to engage with it off line.

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