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To think keeping kids in clothes is so expensive??

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Namedilema123 · 10/08/2018 18:10

When they go up a size and you have to replace everything...tops, leggings, vests, socks, coats, shoes, jumpers, cardigans....it is so expensive! I often find myself on eBay or Facebook marketplace buying second hand clothes for them and feeling bad that I don't buy them new things. I have a 6 month old and twin 3 year olds and we definitely earn more than the national average, but sizing up for all 3 is really expensive. Am i missing something? Someway to have presentable kids in nice clothes without breaking the bank? How people kit their kids out in head to toe next/gap/m&s is beyond me. Maybe im being tight rather than U.

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ILoveDolly · 10/08/2018 23:04

Spores?! Like the kind of spores that are airborne and also get onto factory clothes. Hmm

FreshHerbs · 10/08/2018 23:09

My oldest two who are 7 and 6 have both just had a growth spurt and I have had to buy everything new from head to toe for both of them. It is a pain in the ass because on top of all their new things I've had to fork out for uniforms too. In a way it was probably the best time for it to happen this year as I've brought loads of bargains in the summer sales JD's, H and M , Asda , Sainsbury's etc and used my loaf and brought many winter items too. Come September/October I can't wait too treat myself for a change and get everything I need

CurlyWurlyTwirly · 10/08/2018 23:09

I often buy things for DS out of season in the next size up, so that they are usually half price. I have lots of nieces so my sister and sister in law are always passing clothes to each other.
Shoes are the biggest expense.
I have bought DS timberland sandals on eBay; new, but a bit big so he’ll get a good year’s wear out of them.
I always buy new brands, but the previous seasons, otherwise they would cost a fortune.
Most people I know hand on clothes.

slkk · 10/08/2018 23:10

You could try something like this for the baby
bundlee.co.uk/pages/our-story-1

Orangecake123 · 10/08/2018 23:15

My siblings and I grew up wearing hand me downs from our cousins, quality clothes last longer.

FlotSHAMnJetson · 10/08/2018 23:17

When they are little ask for clothes for birthday/Christmas, be specific e.g a nice jumper with a zip from Granny and a t-shirt from Uncle Richard.

Buy second hand.

Sainsbury's 25% off too, I've found they're usually the least naf of the supermarkets and the quality has always been quite high.

Ariela · 10/08/2018 23:26

I used to volunteer at NCT Nearly New Sales and pick up all manner of really nice clothes often BNWT for a fraction of the price, and some items I could sell after use for more than I paid for them. Once in school uniform , it gets very cheap, I used to buy M&S and it'd easily last a year.

RoseMartha · 10/08/2018 23:35

I either but second hand better quality clothes on ebay or new in the sales. I also buy new in primark and supermarkets. Try to buy a size up as much as possible. Accept offers of hand me downs you can always pass on what you dont need or like, to someone else who would appreciate it.

Tomatoesrock · 10/08/2018 23:38

TBH I can afford for DD(4) to have lovely stuff/lots of toys etc because i stopped breeding at 1. Not telling you off for having 3 kids but, well, i could have 1 child very well provided for or more with money increasingly thinly spread

Absolutely charming, Some of my best memories are of my new hand downs from cousins. Splitting with my sisters. We didn't feel poor, just humble. Let's hope your DD agrees or she could give birth to 4 Wink

PorkFlute · 10/08/2018 23:43

Buy stuff in sales or charity shops in bigger sizes and put away. Get clothes in a size up and stuff that can be worn across seasons. Skirts can be worn on their own in the summer or with tights in winter for eg.

checkingforballoons · 10/08/2018 23:50

I agree with the previous poster who said that you just don’t know what sort of home second hand clothes have come from. Bought a John Lewis hoodie in a charity shop, brought it home, all seemed fine. I woke up a week later to the most awful screaming, ran into my sons room to find the hoodie lunging at his wellies with a knife.
Turns out it had been removed from its previous home for stabbing a nautical themed JoJo romper suit Sad

middleagedalready · 10/08/2018 23:54

I used nct sales and bundles of clothes on netmums when DC were younger. Nowadays I buy in the sales and try to get the size up in the next season, so DC have winter clothes good to go in a couple of months bought half price at the start of summer. Supermarkets are great value, Boden et al have good sales.
Shoes even with a Clark outlets I have always found pricey though. Twins mean that things can't get passed down so they do cost more.

Passthecake30 · 11/08/2018 00:05

I don't get my 2 too many clothes at any one time, e.g. Ds has 2 pairs of jeans, 2 joggers, 3 hoodys and about 6 t-shirts. Dd has slightly more as her clothes are paler/pastel, but then again, her leggings are cheaper than his jeans.
It does mean I have to keep on top of the washing however.

garethsouthgatesmrs · 11/08/2018 00:16

*TBH I can afford for DD(4) to have lovely stuff/lots of toys etc because i stopped breeding at 1. Not telling you off for having 3 kids but, well, i could have 1 child very well provided for or more with money increasingly thinly spread8

yep the choice is siblings or second hand clothes. If that were true I wonder what your children would choose OP?

I could probably afford new clothese for all three of mine but I just think it's a waste of money. I am lucky to have some hand me downs for DDs and I shop on ebay and at charity shops, if there is something specific they need I will pay full price but i just don't always. They couldn't care less so why should it matter? As they have grown they have started to have more of an input into the types of things they like but they love scanning ebay with me for the best bargains.

Also people's kids might be in head to toe gap because they only buy gap second hand stuff or because family buy it at christmas/birthdays or because they spend a larger propotion of the family budget on clothes but miss out on something you consider an essential. No 3 year old cares if they are in head to toe gap.Don't waste head space and remember the good you are doing for the environment by using recycled clothes.

garethsouthgatesmrs · 11/08/2018 00:22

Bighoooley you're either joking or a socially inept prat with very little taste. I mean if that's true why post it on a thread started by a woman who is struggling to afford clothes for her DC?... and Boden for everything? Really?

checking for balloons thanks that made me giggle

NameChanger22 · 11/08/2018 00:29

I shop in sales, Primark, car boot sales and charity shops. Most of dd's clothes come from various sales or Primark. I don't think you can tell that a plain white t-shirt or a pair of jeans comes from Primark. She also has a few other really nice things from Monsoon, M&S and TK Maxx which makes her wardrobe look a bit more expensive.

Now she's nearly 12 and as tall as me she's having fun going through my wardrobes and picking out stuff that fits. I spend less than £300 a year on her clothes. I spend less than £100 a year on my clothes. We both have a lot of clothes, probably too many.

nervyuyt · 11/08/2018 00:30

It's actually never been cheaper.

The price we pay now for school uniform is roughly what my mum paid for mine in the 1980's.

Cheap clothing is much more common now

GertrudetheFifth · 11/08/2018 03:21

Figuring out when things go on sale helps - e.g. for tiny baby clothes I got pretty much everything I needed in M&S sales or promotions at 20 to 40% off. Multipacks are cheaper than individual items. Like previous posters, I also wait for my preferred brands e.g. Frugi/JoJo to go on sale and pick up bits I like then, also in larger sizes to grow into if the discount is good. I spend a lot of time outdoors, so picked up good quality winter clothing in the sales last spring. I just accept that the item might not be my first choice colour.

I’ve also reduced what I need to buy by gratefully accepting any offer of hand-me-down clothes from friends/work colleagues/neighbours. Then I have more money for a few special things, or unusual stuff I’m unlikely to be passed down (e.g. baby swimming neoprene wrap).

I think twins make it much harder though. I am a twin, and I pretty much grew up in hand-me-downs from friends and family, but with new underwear, socks and shoes. I also often got nice clothes as Christmas or birthday presents. It was fine - didn’t hurt me at all!

OneStepSideways · 11/08/2018 07:11

I buy secondhand online (all good qualify brands in good condition) and mostly gender neutral so they can be handed down.
Supermarket and highstreet stuff IME goes bobbly and shapeless before one child has outgrown it. It's a false economy.

Mindchilder · 11/08/2018 07:19

My children do wear a lot of Next, Joules, Jojo stuff but it's 90% second hand bundles from Facebook.

I only buy new clothes for birthdays and Christmas and then it's usually H&M. I save my money for decent new shoes.

Gaspodethetalkingdog · 11/08/2018 07:29

Surely clothes are cheaper than they have ever been due to low cost production in Asia? In the past clothes were quite an expensive item.

I have been amazes when house hunting how many clothes and shoes people have crammed in their cupboards.

Primark for example sells stuff for virtually nothing and many of my friend buy nearly everything fromTK Maxx

Bbbbbbbb2017 · 11/08/2018 07:36

I buy in the sales and once we are half way through a season if I need extra bits I go up a size so it lasts the following season too.

I can see my 1 year old being a nightmare to shoe, he already is a 7.5h when my 3 year old is only an 8.5f Shock

SlimmingMumOf1 · 11/08/2018 07:41

I get majority of his clothes from the charity shop, socks from Primark and he mainly lives in babygros during the winter! I don't spend that much money on clothes becos he is going to outgrow them anyway.

BertieBotts · 11/08/2018 07:51

Eh, why on earth would you feel bad for getting second hand? They don't care, clothes are clothes.

It will cost a fortune if you're getting it all new, especially from places like Next etc, and if you're waiting until they have outgrown things and then buying an entire set of clothing in the next size.

I do think you probably have higher costs with twins as the eldest though because you need to buy double in that size - however you should have double the hand me downs which means twice as likely not to be worn out! So might balance out a bit for the younger one, though I still think twins as the eldest is likely to be the issue.

I used to keep an eye out for bits I liked in sales, second hand, reduced etc and buy it in the next size up to keep on hand, so that I had a stock ready to go and then when I notice something isn't fitting quite right, I can be on the lookout for trousers or whatever in that size. Usually then I only need to buy a couple of pairs at once to fill in gaps, and so then I specifically look for multipacks or 3 for 2 etc, and tend to go for more basic items to keep costs lower. Whereas when I'm looking second hand, in sales etc I allow myself to buy nicer bits. Marks and Spencer is great for multipacks. Next often have multibuys. Supermarkets sometimes do surprisingly nice bits, and are perfect for basics like underwear. I have found Primark totally deceptive because they are cheap but nasty quality. But they are alright for things like jeans, pyjamas and sometimes hoodies.

Also keep it simple. I think this is easier with boys' clothes than girls' - but DS literally only wears shorts/trousers, then short sleeved t-shirts and jumpers/hoodies. I don't buy things like shirts or other complicated combinations which can really only be worn together. He did have some dungarees when he was younger, but they can go over a long sleeved t-shirt (which he used to wear when younger) or bodysuit for babies/toddlers which is fine. If I had a girl I'd probably stick to a combination of leggings/tights and then tops and dresses, maybe a couple of pairs of shorts or a skirt - basically anything which can be mixed and matched rather than having lots of complicated outfits which need to be assembled, because I think that leads to needing more clothes as things are in the wash or whatever.

Lastly budgeting helps - I used to have a ballpark figure of paying max £4 for a t-shirt and max £8 for a pair of trousers or a jumper. £12 for a pair of pyjamas although I'd try to get them cheaper (I hate overspending on sleepwear). I'd only go over that figure if I saw something I really loved. And usually second hand you can get things for much cheaper than that. I'm not sure if £4 and £8 is realistic any more as DS is nearly 10 now and I'm not familiar with UK prices since we moved abroad, but find out your limit and keep it in your head when you're hunting.

Brand new character or branded stuff is for Christmas/birthday presents where I'll often buy something which is needed anyway but instead of spending my usual on it I'll look a bit harder and splash out on something nicer. That way he gets a few nice things inamongst my bargain hunting. It seems to be working out as a strategy. And often he will gravitate towards one of the cheapest items I had picked up as some kind of afterthought, anyway!

PurpleCrazyHorse · 11/08/2018 07:52

I've just discovered Matalan. More in there for my DS as DD isn't very girly and lots of their girl stuff is pink and sparkly. But I've picked up really cheap (and hardwearing) coats etc in there and have been very pleased. It's now my go-to place for DS.

I also buy the expensive brands on eBay, stuff like Next, Joules etc. They wash really well so they tend to hold their shape. I bought 4x Next denim shorts for DD for the price of 2x new ones. They've hardly been worn as they're seasonal and I doubt they'll fit DD next year (will go in a box for DS). Shop out of season on eBay too, to get better bargains.

DD prefers more neutral colours so I do sometimes buy new for her, e.g. Next t-shirts from the boy range, as they tend to keep well and DS will wear them.

I buy in sales in larger sizes and keep them. Try to buy for the 3yos things that can be handed down to your 6mo. I got DD a gorgeous red gillet in a Joules sale, totally unisex and DS now wears it.

I've always bought cheap school uniform and our school has a donated items and second hand uniform sale. I pick up school uniform in all sizes going upward. I then donate it back afterwards. Great as obviously DS won't wear DD's cardigans!

I definitely don't buy all at once. I try to keep an eye on what is getting small and then start looking. Clothes that are good quality and last, I'll just keep buying them up in all sizes.

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