To be sick of BF being a gentleman

[Kakamora]

I'm so tired of my boyfriend seemingly trying to prove he's a gentleman when it's inappropriate.
Some examples:

We went on holiday with friends and one friend hurt her leg, he was carrying her round on his back most the holiday whilst I walked on my own.
I was on a night out separate to his night out and a person in his friendship group he briefly dated was drunk and he carried her back to her friends house.

I don't think it's appropriate, my friends all think my annoyance is uncalled for but why can't he take my feelings into account he's always looking after these girls when he shouldn't be getting involved. Maybe one time but not situations like this all the time.

How very odd.

Why don't you start carrying men around and see if he likes it.

What sort of circle of friends do you have that requires this level of carrying anyway?

Surely this is the more pertinent question here.

Why would this make you jealous? It's bizarre.

Please OP, can you give us some other example of how his gentlemanly-ness irks you, because the fact that he keeps carrying other drunk women which you are jealous of, isn't cutting it for me.

Surely if a friend can’t walk or is drunk the group would help? It’s a long time since I’ve been part of a group that gets that drunk, but I do vaguely remember..,,,

He'll regret his carrying shenanigans when he's having his hernia repair done.

He loves the attention lugging these women around brings him... he needs to be the centre of attention for these women...

it's actually more alarming how many accidents happen around him.. now that's weird

One of the things I've come to realise through age and wisdom...is you can't change other people...only your reaction to them.

He sounds like an attention-seeking creep, not a gentleman.

It does sound annoying. If I hurt my leg I would not expect my mates boyfriend to carry me around

He sounds like an attention-seeking creep, not a gentleman.
Because he's assisted 2 people? Okaaayyyyyyyyy

That does sound odd, and I do see why repeated carrying of other women would get old.

Maybe you could look into taking up a sport together?

Oddly, in this list of what makes a gentleman, there is no mention of carrying females about, drunk or otherwise.
www.thegentlemansjournal.com/20-things-make-man-gentleman/

He seems to be very fond of carrying women on his back. Does he have one hand in his trouser pocket while doing it?

He seems to be very fond of carrying women on his back. Does he have one hand in his trouser pocket while doing it?

hahaaaa

Oh he's a jolly good donkey isn't he

If he's got a 'Knight in Shining Armour"complex, then I can see it'd start to grate OP. Is it just a few times or constant putting himself into 'saviour' roles?

Buy him a papoose in which to carry his ladies?

In my experience this is about him getting the attention and being the hero and showing what a nice guy he is. You don't matter because he won't get a pat on the back for holding your hand.

I've wanted one since I was 17, I'm now 25 and still want exactly the same thing done, so based on that I'm sure I'd never regret it, I've wanted it for 8 years!
Truthfully I'm too terrified to get it done. My dh has recommended the place he went and assured me the lady is lovely (she still works there and I'd wait for her to be available to do it). I've given birth and had no drugs barring a pethidine injection after 4 days of contractions. And I'm not scared of needles or injections, I literally watch them take my blood. So there's no reason for it.

Happymummy, not to worry, ops fella will piggy back you!!

@happymummy12345

I have got to 46 without having to offer to carry anyone apart from small children.. but maybe that is just me!

It's odd. If someone is too drunk to walk, I'd be more inclined to call them a lift. If their leg hurts, I'd try to sort some crutches. It would never occur to me that someone should carry an adult because it's actually a really bad idea and likely to injure the carrier.