18 month old left alone 10 mins asleep

[Justme1981]

Hi all
Aibu i was on way home from work dh ordered takeaway i had the money. He decided to leave ds on his own whilst sleeping to go get more cash for takeaway as he thought it would be here before me. It still hasnt arrived. Im fuming - aibu?

Yanbu.

Ltb

Yanbu.

I would be very angry

Woah, YANBU! Thats awful.

Fuck! His belly is more important than DC?!

Yanbu.

YADNBU! Dangerous game he’s playing.

Of course you’re not being unreasonable. Ignoring the absolute worst that could happen, what if your DS has a nightmare and woke up crying and needed comforting? What an awful thing to do.

I would be having serious conversation with him, that is not on, and why did he just order off just eat, if he was that hungry !

YANBU. Was DC ok? Though obviously that’s not the point.

I would be livid. My OH (who is a great Dad) asked me a couple of times with DS was a baby if nipping out for 2 mins while he slept was ok (he never did it).

When I rather forcefully explained to him it can only take minutes for a house fire to spread or someone to break in (unlikely events, I know) he sharp changed his mind.

It's not a risk worth taking.

I very rarely say YANBU on these threads but I can definately say YANBU.

That I said seriously worrying.

Fuming wouldn't even begin to cover it.
What the fuck was the idiot thinking of.
Even in a minute anything could have happened. Good God You must have been out of your mind.
I know of 2 little boys whose mum left them for not even 2 minutes to run to her neighbours for something. They died in extreme tragic circumstances. Mind you what happened could have happened even if she was only in a different room,
I suppose.

Thank you all, yes im livid our relationship is on its last legs anyway but ive really been trying, hes currently angry said ok wont do it again, but doesnt see the harm! Grrr.
Yes my ds is fine thankfully

Yanbu. V Sorry but so much can happen even in very short time frames.

My exhusband did something similar when dd (now 22) was 7months old. Left her in her cot while I did the weekly food shop so he could go chat to a mate who lived down the road. No idea if he was gone for 10m or an hour - when I got back her food was still untouched in the kitchen, she was in her cot, nappy soaked through etc.

I went absolutely nuclear. He was packed and out before the day was done. He couldn't see the risks either - worryingly neither could his mother who was a social worker!

This will only get worse I'm afraid. The only problem is if you leave him he will have ds on his own and you'll have no say about his behaviour unless you think this is enough to warrant contact child services which tbh seems a bit extreme.

YANBU.

Was he gone for actually ten minutes orgone for "ten" minutes (in reality 20... Or more?

Not that I'm saying it's OK, rather just playing devil's advocate.

But, if it was actually ten minutes door to door on foot, then if I have spent a good ten minutes or so hanging out washing or getting stuff in from the he car (or whatever). How is that different?

@00100001 there's a huge difference between being in the garden and on the property and down the road and out of sight at a cash machine.

I dont know how long it was according to google its 6 min walk each way, back is up steep hill.
Lots of difference being in/just next to house he can hear him then - def cant from the shop!

I would be fuming!!! I just couldn't do this... I even have awful dreams where I have done this and can't get back to my babies due to circumstances... the way I felt in my dream was horrific so no way would I do this!!

If he has woken up it's amazing what damage an 18month old can do in ten minutes. There's another post on here where a mother can't clean because of her 18month old.

YANBU. I'd be absolutely furious.