Dh away

[Stepawayfromthewine]

Hi, I’m feeling so down. I moved from my hometown four years ago when DHs job moved, about 70miles away. Dcs had to move school etc. One of my dbs has ASD so it was a big deal for us all but especially for him. DS is flying now, couldn’t be happier for him. Dd is getting there too. Dh has now gone to work in the Middle East. He’s been gone for three months but this has now been extended. In truth I dont know when he’ll be home. I don’t even know if he wants to come home. He says he does but it’s not happening. And I’m on my own. I’ve got no friends locally, my family aren’t close by. So I have no support at all. I’m lonely and completely alone. Most days I don’t speak to another adult. I want to get a job but nothing fits in with school - dd is 10 and she’s not enough to get herself home by herself yet. No wrap around care at school as it’s a rural area. I feel like I may going out of my mind. I’m on antidepressants. Has anyone got any ideas? I know this isn’t a AIBU really but I’m goig out of my mind.

I would consider setting myself up as a single parent so that if he didn't come back you would already be set up.
What do other working parents at the school do, ask around they cannot all have family that help. Maybe a child minder?
Having a job would give you social contact.

Hi OP I’m sorry you are feeling like this. What about some on line leRning to get a qualification or brush up on an interest? Local walking group? The fresh air/exercise will give you a lift. Gym membership: dancing class/ language class/ charity work - there must be something to look forward to every day. Local Wi! They are Not as frumpy as they used to be. Do your local committees need more volunteers? Lots of old people are lonely and on their own rurally- start a network - pop in for coffee and chats even if you take the coffee-tea and cake and brighten their day- it will make you feel better too. Gardening, loads OP put your mind to it you’ve a massive opportunity here. I’m guessing you are not skint so can use your free hours as a luxury almost

Is there any way you can move closer to family and friends if husband is going to be away a while? If he does come home and needs to be where you are atm he could find somewhere to stay in the week and come home on weekends? I know lots of people who do that.