Partners Family....

[Kristina24]

So I have recently discovered I’m pregnant 😁 Me and my partner are over the moon but I don’t get on with his mother or sister due to them disrespecting me numerous times and him enabling their behaviour often so we decided to remain a united front and we would tell them together.

By chance we had the opportunity to tell his mother together as she was in town so we did but where most of the issues stem from the sister we wanted to wait to tell his sister so it’s safer for me and baby.

I’ve just discovered he told his sister with his mother in our flat when I was at work, I’m so upset I don’t even know what to do with myself, I feel so disappointed and let down, do I have a right to feel this way?

I understand why you are upset if you decided to tell them together but I would just let it go. Who gives a crap what she thinks anyway.

What do you mean when you say your dp enables their behaviour?

Hey!😁

Well there have been multiple situations where the sister in particular has disrespected me and he almost allows it to happen and still has a normal relationship with her despite her not apologising or rectifying what she’s done, I understand it’s his family but I think it let’s them think they can disrespect me all they want AND have a normal relationship with him with no issues

Let it go.

It is really not important in the scheme of things. What will be important is how they relate to you and especially the child when it is born..

How long have you been together?

All we got when we told PILs was "was it planned?" So hope everything went well and they had a better reaction when mil and sil were told! ❤

Well you knew what he was like before and have stayed with him so not sure what you expect really.

How exactly do they disrespect you?

What do they do to disrespect you? What age is the sister?

We’ve been together 6 years now, our baby was planned and his sister is 25, she’s called me out of my name multiple times, wrote about me online, backbites to other people we all know and is just all in all rude, I personally think it’s jealousy as she’s made weird comments before about how I dress but who knows

Your problem is your partner.

When you say they have 'disrespected' you - how? What do you mean?

I get the impression you don't like either the Mother or Sister very much so I wouldn't worry too much about what they think. Don't let this spoil a special time for you or your partner.

AKA Pick your battles.

Of course you have a right to feel this way if this what you and hubby agreed- he should be supporting you through this especially if he knows that sister has been disrespectful towards you.

I think it was best that he did it alone. But it should have been discussed.

Things have changed, so he now needs to be laying down the law.

But you also need to be telling them straight and standing up for yourself. Don't put up with one more episode.

You have a partner problem. Not a sil or mil problem. You agreed to something he ignored you.

This disrespected me is a new thing, what happened to " insulted. Me or annoyed me"

Thank you everyone that commented, I was really nervous to post as this is my first post but I quickly felt comfortable, thank you all again😁