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Holiday with DS

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Watermaiden · 09/08/2018 14:48

I'm a divorcee with a 9 year old son; This year is the first year (after 5 years of divorce) that I have been in a position to go on holiday with DS. I have a boyfriend, who dos not live with me - my choice - and for the past 2 years I have been planning to take DS on holiday, for a week, just the two of us when I get a permenant job. As this has FINALLY have a happened, I have come good on my promise and am taking DS in the October half terms (WOOHOO!). My BF has known that this will be happening and has (outwardly) been supportive of me with this. The problem is that the BF is a teacher, and while he isn't at DS's school, his half term is the same. When I called the BF to let him know we're going away he assumed it meant him too. The ENTIRE point was that I can finally take my son away, and I wanted it to be just the two of us as he's now getting close to the age where he will want to do more with his friends rather than me and I wanted it to be a silly, lazy week. The BF is one of these 'we're on holiday so let's do EVERYTHING all at once even if it means spending all our time in the car" type of person while I am a 'I'm on holiday so let's actually stop and chill' type, as is DS.

Now I could be a moern and independent person and tell my BF it will be me and my son, or I could be a doormat (and save some money) and let him come along. Both have pros and both have cons - heeeelp!

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Stinkbomb · 09/08/2018 14:52

Be a modern & independent person - it will be nice for you and DS to spend some time together just the 2 of you.

fourplusonemore · 09/08/2018 14:53

Be modern and independent. There'll be holidays with DP involved. This one needs to be about you and DS asserting your independence and enjoying alone time with no stresses of every day life.

daffodillament · 09/08/2018 14:55

Your plan all along has been for it to just the two of you. BF should hopefully understand and accept this. (If not then that's another issue)
Get something booked and enjoy it ! Time with our little ones is precious enough as time passes too quickly ! Always time to spend and holiday with the BF but not this time. Enjoy.

Aquamarine1029 · 09/08/2018 14:56

Don't ruin this opportunity by giving in to your boyfriend, and don't allow your boyfriend to emotionally bully you into caving. If he, as a grown man, can't understand and appreciate why you want this trip to be just you and your son, you need a new partner.

Di11y · 09/08/2018 14:57

Oh don't let one awkward convo ruin your holiday - lady up and be clear. "Family" holiday in Easter?

flissfloss65 · 09/08/2018 14:57

Just go with your son. I’ve had some great holidays just me and ds and it is always different when we holiday with others.

Trinity66 · 09/08/2018 14:58

Go with your DS, if your BF doesn't understand is he really worth it?

lapenguin · 09/08/2018 15:13

Just tell him
Was just a simple misunderstanding
Unless you think he could chill for a week as you and ds want

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