To ask you to cheer me up?

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Been turned down for a job this morning. Thought it had gone really well, but was rejected for being 'over qualified/experienced' and too 'bubbly and enthusiastic' and that they thought I'd be bored I'm gutted. I know I'd have been really good at it and it would have given me a chance to retrain. I've had horrific PND and it took so much for me to put myself out there. I'm trying not to take it too personally.

I'm desperate. I'm losing my job next year. And on top of that, got an email this morning about changing my hours when I return to work from maternity leave next month so I have no way of getting DS to or from his nursery. DH is away from September to the middle of November. No family help locally despite trying to forge relationships with people. No extra money to pay for any help either. I'd pinned so much hope on getting this job.

I just can't stop crying. It's not helped by the fact I've had two hours sleep in three days, DS has been teething badly and crying all night, but I just feel like shit. I'm stressed, exhausted, and just feel rather hopeless at the moment.

I've been offered another interview for a role the company thinks I'd be better at - which is the only silver lining.

I'm sorry I'm rambling. Please can someone cheer me up?

I think the fact that they've asked to see you for another position is something you should be celebrating OP. There's nothing to be miserable about at all! It sounds like they really want you or they'd have just said thanks but no thanks.

Did they really say you were too bubbly though?

Sounds like a great company - you applied for a job they thought you were not right for and they have invited you to apply for one they think will suit you better?

I would be really keen - assume they know the roles better than you do!

They've offered you another interview for a different role so they clearly saw something in you.

Give yourself permission to have a day to get over this. Don't try to do too much but have a really chilled out day with your DS. Watch rubbish on TV, have an indoor or outdoor picnic depending on the weather and nap when your DS naps.

Bad Joke alert
Where do fish sleep?
On the sea bed.

Why are there no painkillers in the jungle?
Because the paracetamol (parrots eat 'em all)

That's what I'm trying to focus on - but I think it's the ' top bubbly' comment that is stinging.

When she said it, I asked if she meant maybe I talked too much or something like that. But she said no. So I guess it really is just a personality trait thing.

I think that actually sounds really positive! They like you and want to to interview for a job you'd be right for. You will feel better after some sleep, and that will one day happen!

Thank you all - I know I'm being a bit daft. I'm sure a lot of it is sleep deprivation. I'm lucky to even be in the running for a different role.

They do, by all accounts, seem like a genuinely great company to work for. I think that's why I'm upset - maybe I want to work there too badly!

Perhaps they meant that your bubbly personality would be better utilised in the other position. It sounds like that but they phrased it badly....from the negative rather than the positive.

Does the other position involve more talking and interacting?

Possibly.

The other role would possibly involve more interaction with colleagues and stakeholders - it's in project management. The role I was rejected for was in finance. I'm waiting for them to send the job specification over to me so I can take a look.

It's just so hard not to take things personally, isn't it?

Finance is boring. They just think you're better fitting for a role with interaction! It's not a negative. They don't want your sparkling personality stuffed away in finance.

With your updates, it actually sounds very positive.
I really hope the role they are considering is good and a better fit for you.
Go back and be totally yourself again.
Sleep deprivation is a total bastard.

I had similar with my current company. I assumed "we think you are overqualified" was a brush off. However they called back a few weeks later with a more senior position. 1 quick interview and I was in. Have worked here for 8 months now and love it.

Don't be disheartened! It is a compliment.

You're all making me feel so much more positive about this and that's a really encouraging story cath. I'm glad you're enjoying it!

Still waiting on the job spec. But the HR lady has called to say she's been chatting with the hiring manager about me, and that once we book an interview in she'll arrange for me to come in with her for half an hour before the actual interview to go over the interview structure and prep me as best she can.

I do feel like she really wants me to succeed so hopefully I will!

Step back a minute, all this is resolvable!

Get yourself a cup of tea and take 5. Make sure you get some rest tonight if you can and look at it all again tomorrow with a clearer mind.

Definitely interview for the other job, that is really positive. You’ll be absolutely fine x

I think this rejection will turn out to be the best thing ever!

Good luck for the different role