My fiancé and I have been together four years in a very happy relationship however the cracks are beginning to show. We have a four month old and I’m currently on mat leave.
DF works really hard to provide for us, typically 12 hour days and has been picking up two Saturdays a month too. He doesn’t need to work Saturday but we want to get married and he explicitly wants to work to help pay it off. I’m lucky he’s so hard working but just feel our relationship is being sidelined. His job is so physical that he is exhausted every evening and most evenings I struggle with his lack of energy as it means little conversation and it feels like we don’t have much fun anymore!!
We went out for lunch last week but as soon as the meal was finished he suggested leaving which I understand but it’s still a bit crappy.
I try to talk to him but it usually ends in an argument and I know he’s not willing to work less.
Do I need to put up and shut up?! Should I be doing more?
I want us to stay together but the arguments are becoming more frequent and it’s feeling like really hard work for both of us.