To say no to DM?

[Ladybug666]

New poster so please bare with me.
My Dd, 14, used to spend a few days & nights with her grandmother, my Dm, each summer but now that she is old enough to stay at home alone she really doesn’t want to go. I totally understand & don’t want to force her. She is going through the usual teenage moods but is also quite teary at times and only really opens up to me.
I know Dm will take it personally if I say no but don’t want Dd to be unhappy.
WWYD?

“I would tell DD that it's illegal for a child under the age of 16 to be left alone overnight. And then she would go to DM.” Goth does your Dd not have access to Google, then?

Teens know what’s what. How does lying help?

She isn’t staying alone at night, anyway.

I think this is one of those special times when your DD will remember your actions.

OP I don’t think your Dd should be a hostage in a difficult relationship between you and your Mum. If your Mum causes a strain with you she probably has the same effect on your Dd. She shouldn’t have to go just because you are afraid of the fall out from your Mum.