To think I shouldn't get hit on by creepy f**kers at work

[Tinkerbellisnotafairy]

So I work in a large office, which has a good friendly atmosphere. It's the culture of the place to smile at people if you pass them, even if you don't know them. I've been brought up to always smile at people if they smile at you, as it's polite.

So I got hit on by this janitor at work today... because I smiled at him. He said "Gosh, that's made my day." I said why, and he replied, "Because I've seen you." And I was like, "er, thanks..." and he said "You've got such a lovely smile, I love your smile."

It's now made me feel quite uncomfortable - he seems to follow me around and is always where I am, like if I'm making a coffee or going to the loo. Work is supposed to be a safe place and now it feels odd.

Am I overreacting?

I shall probably get flamed for this, but I find him a bit creepy. I can't put my finger on it, but there's something just a bit... off about him. It makes my spidey senses tingle, iykwim.

AIBU to think I should be able to smile at someone without being hit on?

I bet he sniffs your chair when you've left for the day....

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He might not have been hitting on you, you know. People do sometimes say things like that and genuinely mean them.

If he seems a bit creepy, just be a little distant with him but I feel, if he doesn't make a habit of saying such things, it's not a big deal.

Always trust your instincts. I wouldn't report him immediately, but if this following you nonsense keeps up, you definitely need to speak up.

YABU I’ve just got back from drinks with a client who explicitly asked to kiss me tonight. I work in sales, I’m no oil painting but it happens fairly regularly. I’ve learned to deflect without causing anyone embarrassment and be quietly flattered,

Is he always lurking around literally wherever you go, even when you go to the loo? Unless he has some convincing reason for being there consistently at the same time as you are, you need t raise this with HR.

@yellowspottedwellies

Haven't seen him today so I think he's not in... It took me ages to work up the courage to get a coffee in case he was in the kitchen (he always seems to be in there at the time I get my morning coffee).

Maybe I am just overreacting and reading too much into it? I don't know... but can't shake the vibe.