To find this a bit strange

[Yohoandabottleofwine]

So I made a decision to come off social media about 6 months ago - mainly due to time I wasted on it could be used productively but also because the more I thought about the dangers of it and how addicting it is and how it basically rules today’s society I felt I didn’t want to be a part of it.

So basically my AIBU is this:

Since coming of social media it’s given me time to realise who I want in my life who makes an effort to contact me I have a few more deeper meaningful relationships it’s not just a passing Facebook relationship and feeling like we are in touch if that makes sense, however what I have found is how much people share with ‘friends’ on social media about their lives , kids, what they are up to but don’t really disclose that much over text or call. Why do we (society) feel like need to share our wonderful life with the world online but not with friends and family who would be interested and really happy for them. I know it’s no just me as Iv spoke to others who feel the same, parents who learn that their children / grandchildren have done something lovely in passing comments from practically a random stranger .

Lock your Facebook settings to Friends (or certain friends) and only befriend people you've met in real life.

Stop changing your profile picture, think carefully about whether you should SHARE at all and be sparing in your posts.

So what are you doing here on MN, wasting your precious time that could be spent on more important things? And MN is more addictive than FB or any other forms of social media!!

The irony of this.

Yabu to preach about

Then,er, DO it!!!

Ha ha was gueninely interested in why this happens.

I’m hardly sharing intimate details about my daily life that I havnt shared with those important to me.

Not a big user of MN do not the same really

So not do.

But thanks for the input peeps ✌️

I find it weird too; I think that social media plays a big role in a lot of issues in society around bullying, mental health, body image etc but it also does a lot of good for all the above things so I’m not sure what the solution is.
I’m very often tempted to come off social media including mumsnet as I waste so much time on it but can’t quite bring myself to. I am trying to not use it when I’m in peoples company though.

I totally agree and the more research I do on it the more I’m worries me about young users and future society and how Facebook it’s linked to alienation and anxiety etc.

I access mumsnet for a little nosey But will limit myself on how much time I spend on my phone etc. I have to really small kiddies and studying. It’s not that my time is more precious than anyone else’s I just don’t really like this modern day way of communicating with 400 Facebook friends and not our nearest and dearest.

So many affairs start via social media

There's no escaping it. So so easy to cheat your partners these days

So you've absented yourself from the method many people use to keep in touch and socialise with others, and now you are whining that people aren't keeping in touch with you in the way that you would now like?

What you've done there is failed to appreciate all the good parts of social media, and now you are feeling their loss, blaming it on everyone else rather than yourself.

Social media has negatives, yes. It also has many positives (and equally as much research on that, which it seems you have not bothered with, preferring media snapshots of doom and gloom). It's the people who use it and how that makes the difference.

I just don’t really like this modern day way of communicating with 400 Facebook friends and not our nearest and dearest

Like this shite. It's not hard to work out that you could just have your nearest and dearest on FB and not 400 randomers, is it? It's not FB, its you.