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How to survive a wedding?

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PlasWedding · 08/08/2018 08:53

I'm getting married on Friday! (Eeek)

I'm really excited but also very very nervous.

Do you have any tips on how to make the day go as smooth as possible? Any tips on just how to get through the day would be great 😅

Also any last minute buys I may need that I might have forgotten to get?

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ScreamingValenta · 08/08/2018 08:55

I'd say, don't become obsessed with everything being perfect. If something goes wrong, accept it as part of the character of the day - it will make it more memorable.

Norma27 · 08/08/2018 08:56

I think just enjoy your day. I personally find it weird the things that brides get worked up about.

The aim of the day is to finish it as a married couple. Don’t stress the little things. If something doesn’t go quite to plan then does it really matter?

Hope you have a fab day

Fluffyears · 08/08/2018 08:58

Lists of what you must have, dress, shoes, special undies to make dress sit right etc so you don’t forget anything is you are staying at the venue. We stayed in a cottage and our car was full

CherryPavlova · 08/08/2018 08:59

Flat spare shoes.

IggyAce · 08/08/2018 09:01

At the end of the day as long as you end up married it's been a success, everything else is just window dressing.
Make sure you eat something for breakfast and drink plenty of water.

scrivette · 08/08/2018 09:02

Make sure you spend some time with your husband!

The day goes by so fast and you are off chatting to different people so we had to make an effort to find each other and stand and chat or watch everything going on.

reluctantbrit · 08/08/2018 09:03

We had somebody in charge for the restaurant to contact for queries. In our case it was my MIL as they went with us to the tastings, did lots for us in preparation work as they lived locally, we lived in a different country and my parents 3 hours drive away.

We only were approached once to check with the cake cutting as MIL thought it was our job to take responsibility for it.

This means I could relax, talk to our families and friends and didn’t red to be on the lookout for issues (not that there were any, the staff was great).

Have a great time

thethoughtfox · 08/08/2018 09:11

If you have your make up done professionally ( or not) make sure you ask them what product they use and buy your own lipstick/ lip product so you can top it up.

shutthedamndoor · 08/08/2018 09:12

Congratulations!
Enjoy yourself. Seriously. I've been to some gorgeous weddings where the bride was so worried about everything that no one really relaxed. The feel of the day comes from the bride and groom so... relax, smile, beam, grin and enjoy yourself. It's wonderful to watch two people being HAPPY.
And something will go wrong, so what? Our seating plan got hijacked by family. The venue forgot half the decorations. We ran late. 13 years later the stories still raise a smile.
Have a wonderful day Smile

MumW · 08/08/2018 09:19

In this heat, a mini bottle of deodorant (I always take foot cooling spray to summer weddings). Spare shoes is probably a good idea too. Make sure both you and your DH drink plenty of water as well as the champagne.

Also, a list of group photos that you definitely want as it never occurred to me and, although everyone appeared in at least one photo, there was one family shot that didn't get taken.

Photos also take time so think about where any older relatives will be able to rest in the shade whilst all the faffing around is going on - last thing you want is to have to call an ambulance.

If it might rain, then a few golfing umbrellas to hand and if you have a long/bulky dress, then an old sheet to gather up the skirt between car/venue. Not elegant but will stop the bottom of your dress getting mucky before proceedings have even begun.

Most of all, try and relax and enjoy the day. Things are unlikely to go completely to plan but you shouldn't need to worry about that, that's what bridesmaids and best man are for.
🍾🥂🎉

Highpeak · 08/08/2018 09:25

Things we forgot: guest book, box for cards! (SIL did an early dash to John Lewis to get them)
Flat shoes are a must if you are not used to heels, left mine at the venue the day before, small bag with items to top up make up, deodorant, mints etc left with someone.

Enjoy and don't stress, it will fly by and all the things building up in your head won't matter at all

MatildaTheCat · 08/08/2018 09:28

If you’ve delegated tasks just trust those people to get on and do it rather than micromanaging them.

Try to be really present and enjoy each moment as it occurs.

Nikephorus · 08/08/2018 09:32

I was going to say that the best way to survive would be to not go but in this case I don't think that would work! Do a list today and then accept that if it's not on the list it's not happening. And relax. It doesn't have to be perfect, but it should be enjoyable for you & him.

DontCallMeCharlotte · 08/08/2018 09:34

Our caterers made a couple of cock ups with the table plan (like putting bottles of wine on the children's table...) and the top table was on the complete opposite side of the room (!) but, you know what, it really didn't matter (once the booze had been extracated from the kids!).

Try and take a moment on your own to step back and take it all in.

Have a wonderful day and, even if the venue implodes, as long as you finish the day with a marriage certificate, the day will have been a success.

Have a lovely time!

PasswordRejection · 08/08/2018 09:37

Drink minimal alcohol so you remember the day as much as possible.

If you are having a sit down meal, use that opportunity to go around all the tables to speak to your guests, thank them for coming etc. That will free you up later to spend more time with the people you really want to focus on.

Congratulations!

fanomoninon · 08/08/2018 09:42

Build in some time that is just you and your husband - either away from the crowds, or where you will be able to drink it all in and just watch for 5 mins. The day goes so fast, and honestly, nothing that you plan is really that important as long as you end up married. I forgot a few things, and a few things went slightly wonky, and none of them made a blind bit of difference. Probably my favourite memory of my wedding was an unscheduled stop that me and dh made at a local duckpond to see the baby ducklings en route to the reception. Just the two of us, 5 minutes to breath in the day. And look at cute fluffy things.

Original poster
PlasWedding · 08/08/2018 09:45

Thank you all! It's a smallish wedding with only 60 guests so hopefully it won't be too manic!

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CrabappleBiscuit · 08/08/2018 09:45

Make sure you eat - don't down a glass of prosecco on an empty stomach!

Make time to go round and chat to people, particularly those that you don't see often! If you do it independently of your husband you'll cover more ground.

Basically as passworkredjection says.

Went to a wedding last weekend and the bride and groom were so busy being photographed, fussing etc they hardly spoke to anyone!

dangerrabbit · 08/08/2018 09:47

Spare knickers if it is still 30 degrees plus

ToadsforJustice · 08/08/2018 09:55

Waterproof mascara. Have a pee before you put your dress on. Don't drink anything alcoholic until after the ceremony.

Good luck Flowers

SoozC · 08/08/2018 10:04

Just enjoy it! Mine went so fast, I'd do it again tomorrow just to savour it a bit more!

specialsubject · 08/08/2018 10:06

have a great day - but may it not be the best day of your life because it would all be downhill otherwise!

dont worry if something goes wrong as long as the paperwork gets signed.

guest want to see a happy couple ( so make sure those shoes dont hurt, it will show on your face), be fed and watered and not kept hanging around.

d ont fuss about photos, you will look at them once.

BlueEyedPersephone · 08/08/2018 10:06

Congratulations, make sure there is someone outside of bride and groom who can fix any issues, our best man was amazing and I found out all the things that had not gone to plan next day!

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